CHAPTER 13.
SOME INSTANCES
OF THE FOLLY WHICH THE IGNORANCE OF WOMEN GENERATES; WITH CONCLUDING
REFLECTIONS ON THE MORAL IMPROVEMENT THAT A REVOLUTION IN FEMALE MANNERS MIGHT
NATURALLY BE EXPECTED TO PRODUCE.
There are many follies, in some degree, peculiar to women: sins against reason, of commission, as well
as of omission; but all flowing from ignorance or prejudice, I shall only point
out such as appear to be injurious to their moral character. And in animadverting on them, I wish
especially to prove, that the weakness of mind and body, which men have endeavoured by various motives to perpetuate, prevents
their discharging the peculiar duty of their sex: for when weakness of body will not permit
them to suckle their children, and weakness of mind makes them spoil their tempers--is
woman in a natural state?
SECTION 13.1.
One glaring instance of the weakness which proceeds from ignorance, first
claims attention, and calls for severe reproof.
In this metropolis a number of lurking leeches infamously gain a subsistence
by practising on the credulity of women, pretending
to cast nativities, to use the technical phrase; and many females who, proud of
their rank and fortune, look down on the vulgar with sovereign contempt, show
by this credulity, that the distinction is arbitrary, and that they have not
sufficiently cultivated their minds to rise above vulgar prejudices. Women, because they have not been led to
consider the knowledge of their duty as the one thing necessary to know, or, to
live in the present moment by the discharge of it, are very anxious to peep
into futurity, to learn what they have to expect to render life interesting,
and to break the vacuum of ignorance. I
must be allowed to expostulate seriously with the ladies, who follow these idle
inventions; for ladies, mistresses of families, are not ashamed to drive in
their own carriages to the door of the cunning man. And if any of them should peruse this work, I
entreat them to answer to their own hearts the following questions, not
forgetting that they are in the presence of God.
Do you believe that there is but one God, and that he is powerful, wise,
and good?
Do you believe that all things were created by him, and that all beings are
dependent on him?
Do you rely on his wisdom, so conspicuous in his works, and in your own
frame, and are you convinced, that he has ordered all things which do not come
under the cognizance of your senses, in the same perfect harmony, to fulfil his designs?
Do you acknowledge that the power of looking into futurity and seeing
things that are not, as if they were, is an attribute of the Creator? And should he, by an impression on the minds
of his creatures, think fit to impart to them some event hid in the shades of
time, yet unborn, to whom would the secret be revealed
by immediate inspiration? The opinion of
ages will answer this question--to reverend old men, to people distinguished
for eminent piety.
The oracles of old were thus delivered by priests dedicated to the service
of the God, who was supposed to inspire them.
The glare of worldly pomp which surrounded these impostors, and the
respect paid to them by artful politicians, who knew how to avail themselves of
this useful engine to bend the necks of the strong under the dominion of the
cunning, spread a sacred mysterious veil of sanctity over their lies and
abominations. Impressed by such solemn
devotional parade, a Greek or Roman lady might be excused, if she inquired of
the oracle, when she was anxious to pry into futurity, or inquire about some
dubious event: and her inquiries, however
contrary to reason, could not be reckoned impious. But, can the professors of Christianity ward
off that imputation? Can a Christian
suppose, that the favourites of the most High, the
highly favoured would be obliged to lurk in disguise,
and practise the most dishonest tricks to cheat silly
women out of the money, which the poor cry for in vain?
Say not that such questions are an insult to common sense for it is your
own conduct, O ye foolish women! which throws an odium
on your sex! And these reflections
should make you shudder at your thoughtlessness, and irrational devotion, for I
do not suppose that all of you laid aside your religion, such as it is, when
you entered those mysterious dwellings.
Yet, as I have throughout supposed myself talking to ignorant women, for
ignorant ye are in the most emphatical sense of the
word, it would be absurd to reason with you on the egregious folly of desiring
to know what the Supreme Wisdom has concealed.
Probably you would not understand me, were I to attempt to show you that it
would be absolutely inconsistent with the grand purpose of life, that of
rendering human creatures wise and virtuous:
and that, were it sanctioned by God, it would disturb the order established
in creation; and if it be not sanctioned by God, do you expect to hear
truth? Can events be foretold, events
which have not yet assumed a body to become subject to mortal inspection, can they
be foreseen by a vicious worldling, who pampers his
appetites by preying on the foolish ones?
Perhaps, however, you devoutly believe in the devil, and imagine, to shift the question, that he may assist his votaries? but if really respecting the power of such a being, an enemy
to goodness and to God, can you go to church after having been under such an obligation
to him. From these delusions to those
still more fashionable deceptions, practised by the
whole tribe of magnetisers, the transition is very
natural. With respect to them, it is
equally proper to ask women a few questions.
Do you know any thing of the construction of the human frame? If not, it is proper that you should be told,
what every child ought to know, that when its admirable economy has been
disturbed by intemperance or indolence, I speak not of violent disorders, but
of chronical diseases, it must be brought into a
healthy state again by slow degrees, and if the functions of life have not been
materially injured, regimen, another word for temperance, air, exercise, and a
few medicines prescribed by persons who have studied the human body, are the
only human means, yet discovered, of recovering that inestimable blessing
health, that will bear investigation.
Do you then believe, that these magnetisers, who,
by hocus pocus tricks, pretend, to work a miracle, are delegated by God, or assisted
by the solver of all these kind of difficulties—the devil.
Do they, when they put to flight, as it is said, disorders that have
baffled the powers of medicine, work in conformity to the light of reason? Or
do they effect these wonderful cures by supernatural
aid?
By a communication, an adept may answer, with the world of spirits. A noble
privilege, it must be allowed. Some of
the ancients mention familiar demons, who guarded them from danger, by kindly intimating
(we cannot guess in what manner,) when any danger was nigh; or pointed out what
they ought to undertake. Yet the men who
laid claim to this privilege, out of the order of nature, insisted, that it was
the reward or consequence of superior temperance and piety. But the present workers of wonders are not
raised above their fellows by superior temperance or sanctity. They do not cure for the love of God, but
money. These are the priests of
quackery, though it be true they have not the
convenient expedient of selling masses for souls in purgatory, nor churches,
where they can display crutches, and models of limbs made sound by a touch or a
word.
I am not conversant with the technical terms, nor initiated into the arcana, therefore I may speak improperly; but it is clear,
that men who will not conform to the law of reason, and earn a
subsistence in an honest way, by degrees, are very fortunate in becoming
acquainted with such obliging spirits.
We cannot, indeed, give them credit for either great sagacity or goodness, else they would have chosen more noble
instruments, when they wished to show themselves the benevolent friends of man.
It is, however, little short of blasphemy to pretend to such power.
>From the whole tenor of the dispensations of Providence, it appears evident
to sober reason, that certain vices produce certain effects: and can any one so
grossly insult the wisdom of God, as to suppose, that a miracle will be allowed
to disturb his general laws, to restore to health the intemperate and vicious,
merely to enable them to pursue the same course with impunity? Be whole, and sin no more, said Jesus. And are greater miracles to be performed by
those who do not follow his footsteps, who healed the body to reach the mind?
The mentioning of the name of Christ, after such vile impostors may displease
some of my readers--I respect their warmth; but let them not forget, that the
followers of these delusions bear his name, and profess to be the disciples of
him, who said, by their works we should know who were the children of God or
the servants of sin. I allow that it is
easier to touch the body of a saint, or to be magnetised,
than to restrain our appetites or govern our passions; but health of body or
mind can only be recovered by these means, or we make the Supreme Judge partial
and revengeful.
Is he a man, that he should change, or punish out
of resentment? He--the common father, wounds but to heal, says reason, and our irregularities
producing certain consequences, we are forcibly shown the nature of vice; that
thus learning to know good from evil, by experience,
we may hate one and love the other, in proportion to the wisdom which we
attain. The poison contains the antidote;
and we either reform our evil habits, and cease to sin
against our own bodies, to use the forcible language of scripture, or a
premature death, the punishment of sin, snaps the thread of life.
Here an awful stop is put to our inquiries.
But, why should I conceal my sentiments?
Considering the attributes of God, I believe, that whatever punishment
may follow, will tend, like the anguish of disease, to show the malignity of
vice, for the purpose of reformation.
Positive punishment appears so contrary to the nature of God,
discoverable in all his works, and in our own reason, that I could sooner
believe that the Deity paid no attention to the conduct of men, than that he
punished without the benevolent design of reforming.
To suppose only, that an all-wise and powerful Being, as good as he is
great, should create a being, foreseeing, that after fifty or sixty years of
feverish existence, it would be plunged into never ending woe--is
blasphemy. On what
will the worm feed that is never to die?
On folly, on ignorance, say ye--I should blush indignantly at drawing
the natural conclusion, could I insert it, and wish to withdraw myself from the
wing of my God! On such a supposition, I
speak with reverence, he would be a consuming
fire. We should wish, though vainly, to
fly from his presence when fear absorbed love, and darkness involved all his
counsels.
I know that many devout people boast of submitting to the Will of God
blindly, as to an arbitrary sceptre or rod, on the
same principle as the Indians worship the devil. In other words, like people in the common
concerns of life, they do homage to power, and cringe under the foot that can
crush them. Rational religion, on the
contrary, is a submission to the will of a being so perfectly wise, that all he
wills must be directed by the proper motive—must be reasonable.
And, if thus we respect God, can we give credit to the mysterious insinuations
which insult his laws? Can we believe,
though it should stare us in the face, that he would work a miracle to authorize
confusion by sanctioning an error? Yet
we must either allow these impious conclusions, or treat with contempt every promise
to restore health to a diseased body by supernatural means, or to foretell, the
incidents that can only be foreseen by God.
SECTION 13.2.
Another instance of that feminine weakness of character, often produced by
a confined education, is a romantic twist of the mind, which has been very
properly termed SENTIMENTAL.
Women, subjected by ignorance to their sensations, and only taught to look
for happiness in love, refine on sensual feelings, and adopt metaphysical
notions respecting that passion, which lead them shamefully to neglect the
duties of life, and frequently in the midst of these sublime refinements they
plunge into actual vice.
These are the women who are amused by the reveries of the stupid novelists,
who, knowing little of human nature, work up stale tales, and describe
meretricious scenes, all retailed in a sentimental jargon, which equally tend
to corrupt the taste, and draw the heart aside from its daily duties. I do not mention the understanding, because
never having been exercised, its slumbering energies rest inactive, like the
lurking particles of fire which are supposed universally to pervade matter.
Females, in fact, denied all political privileges, and not allowed, as
married women, excepting in criminal cases, a civil existence, have their
attention naturally drawn from the interest of the whole community to that of
the minute parts, though the private duty of any member of society must be very
imperfectly performed, when not connected with the general good. The mighty business of female life is to
please, and, restrained from entering into more important concerns by political
and civil oppression, sentiments become events, and reflection deepens what it
should, and would have effaced, if the understanding had been allowed to take a
wider range.
But, confined to trifling employments, they naturally imbibe opinions which
the only kind of reading calculated to interest an innocent frivolous mind,
inspires. Unable to grasp any thing great,
is it surprising that they find the reading of history a very dry task, and
disquisitions addressed to the understanding, intolerably tedious, and almost
unintelligible? Thus are they necessarily
dependent on the novelist for amusement.
Yet, when I exclaim against novels, I mean when contrasted with those
works which exercise the understanding and regulate the imagination. For any kind of reading I think better than
leaving a blank still a blank, because the mind must receive a degree of
enlargement, and obtain a little strength by a slight exertion of its thinking powers;
besides, even the productions that are only addressed to the imagination, raise
the reader a little above the gross gratification of appetites, to which the
mind has not given a shade of delicacy.
This observation is the result of experience; for I have known several
notable women, and one in particular, who was a very
good woman--as good as such a narrow mind would allow her to be, who took care
that her daughters (three in number) should never see a novel. As she was a woman of fortune and fashion,
they had various masters to attend them, and a sort of menial governess to
watch their footsteps. From their
masters they learned how tables, chairs, etc. were called in French and
Italian; but as the few books thrown in their way were far above their
capacities, or devotional, they neither acquired ideas nor sentiments, and
passed their time, when not compelled to repeat WORDS, in dressing, quarrelling
with each other, or conversing with their maids by stealth, till they were
brought into company as marriageable.
Their mother, a widow, was busy in the mean time in keeping up her connexions, as she termed a numerous acquaintance lest her
girls should want a proper introduction into the great world. And these young ladies, with minds vulgar in
every sense of the word, and spoiled tempers, entered life puffed up with
notions of their own consequence, and looking down with contempt on those who
could not vie with them in dress and parade.
With respect to love, nature, or their nurses, had taken care to teach them
the physical meaning of the word; and, as they had few topics of conversation,
and fewer refinements of sentiment, they expressed their gross wishes not in
very delicate phrases, when they spoke freely, talking of matrimony.
Could these girls have been injured by the perusal of novels? I almost forgot a shade in the character of
one of them; she affected a simplicity bordering on folly, and with a simper
would utter the most immodest remarks and questions, the full meaning of which
she had learned whilst secluded from the world, and afraid to speak in her
mother's presence, who governed with a high hand; they were all educated, as she prided
herself, in a most exemplary manner; and read their chapters and psalms before
breakfast, never touching a silly novel.
This is only one instance; but I recollect many other women who, not led by
degrees to proper studies, and not permitted to choose for themselves, have
indeed been overgrown children; or have obtained, by mixing in the world, a
little of what is termed common sense;
that is, a distinct manner of seeing common occurrences, as they stand detached: but what deserves the name of intellect, the power
of gaining general or abstract ideas, or even intermediate ones, was out of the
question. Their minds were quiescent,
and when they were not roused by sensible objects and employments of that kind,
they were low-spirited, would cry, or go to sleep.
When, therefore, I advise my sex not to read such flimsy works, it is to
induce them to read something superior; for I coincide in opinion with a
sagacious man, who, having a daughter and niece under his care, pursued a very
different plan with each.
The niece, who had considerable abilities, had, before she was left to his
guardianship, been indulged in desultory reading. Her he endeavoured
to lead, and did lead, to history and moral essays; but his daughter whom a
fond weak mother had indulged, and who consequently was averse to every thing
like application, he allowed to read novels; and used to justify his conduct by
saying, that if she ever attained a relish for reading them, he should have some
foundation to work upon; and that erroneous opinions were better than none at
all.
In fact, the female mind has been so totally neglected, that knowledge was
only to be acquired from this muddy source, till from reading novels some women
of superior talents learned to despise them.
The best method, I believe, that can be adopted to correct a fondness for
novels is to ridicule them;
not indiscriminately, for then it would have little effect; but,
if a judicious person, with some turn for humour,
would read several to a young girl, and point out, both by tones and apt
comparisons with pathetic incidents and heroic characters in history, how
foolishly and ridiculously they caricatured human nature, just opinions might
be substituted instead of romantic sentiments.
In one respect, however, the majority of both sexes
resemble, and equally show a want of taste and modesty. Ignorant women, forced to be chaste to
preserve their reputation, allow their imagination to revel in the unnatural and
meretricious scenes sketched by the novel writers of the day, slighting as
insipid the sober dignity and matronly grace of history, whilst men carry the
same vitiated taste into life, and fly for amusement to the wanton, from the unsophisticated
charms of virtue, and the grave respectability of sense.
Besides, the reading of novels makes women, and particularly ladies of
fashion, very fond of using strong expressions and superlatives in
conversation; and, though the dissipated artificial life which they lead
prevents their cherishing any strong legitimate passion, the language of
passion in affected tones slips for ever from their glib tongues, and every
trifle produces those phosphoric bursts which only mimick
in the dark the flame of passion.
SECTION 13.3.
Ignorance and the mistaken cunning that nature sharpens in weak heads, as a
principle of self-preservation, render women very fond of dress, and produce
all the vanity which such a fondness may naturally be expected to generate, to
the exclusion of emulation and magnanimity.
I agree with Rousseau, that the physical part of the art of pleasing
consists in ornaments, and for that very reason I should guard girls against
the contagious fondness for dress so common to weak women, that they may not rest
in the physical part. Yet, weak are the
women who imagine that they can long please without the aid of the mind; or, in
other words, without the moral art of pleasing. But the moral art, if it be not
a profanation to use the word art, when alluding to the grace which is an
effect of virtue, and not the motive of action, is never to be found with
ignorance; the sportiveness of innocence, so pleasing to refined libertines of both
sexes, is widely different in its essence from this superior gracefulness.
A strong inclination for external ornaments ever appears in barbarous
states, only the men not the women adorn themselves; for where women are
allowed to be so far on a level with men, society has advanced at least one
step in civilization.
The attention to dress, therefore, which has been thought a sexual propensity,
I think natural to mankind. But I ought
to express myself with more precision.
When the mind is not sufficiently opened to take pleasure in reflection,
the body will be adorned with sedulous care; and ambition will appear in
tattooing or painting it.
So far is the first inclination carried, that even the hellish yoke of
slavery cannot stifle the savage desire of admiration which the black heroes
inherit from both their parents, for all the hardly-earned savings of a slave
are commonly expended in a little tawdry finery. And I have seldom known a good male or female
servant that was not particularly fond of dress. Their clothes were their riches; and I argue
from analogy, that the fondness for dress, so extravagant in
females, arises from the same cause—want of cultivation of mind. When men meet they converse about business,
politics, or literature; but, says Swift, "how
naturally do women apply their hands to each others lappets and ruffles." And
very natural it is--for they have not any business to interest them, have not a
taste for literature, and they find politics dry, because they have not
acquired a love for mankind by turning their thoughts to the grand pursuits
that exalt the human race and promote general happiness.
Besides, various are the paths to power and fame, which by accident or
choice men pursue, and though they jostle against each other, for men of the
same profession are seldom friends, yet there is a much
greater number of their fellow-creatures with whom they never clash. But women are very differently situated with
respect to each other--for they are all rivals.
Before marriage it is their business to please men; and after, with a few
exceptions, they follow the same scent, with all the persevering pertinacity of
instinct. Even virtuous women never forget
their sex in company, for they are for ever trying to make themselves
AGREEABLE. A female beauty and a male wit, appear to be equally anxious to draw the attention of
the company to themselves; and the animosity of contemporary wits is
proverbial.
Is it then surprising, that when the sole ambition of woman centres in beauty, and interest gives vanity additional
force, perpetual rivalships should ensue? They are all running the same race, and would
rise above the virtue of mortals if they did not view each other with a
suspicious and even envious eye.
An immoderate fondness for dress, for pleasure and for sway, are the
passions of savages; the passions that occupy those uncivilized beings who have
not yet extended the dominion of the mind, or even learned to think with the
energy necessary to concatenate that abstract train of thought which produces
principles. And that women, from their
education and the present state of civilized life, are in the same condition,
cannot, I think, be controverted.
To laugh at them then, or satirize the follies of a being who is never to
be allowed to act freely from the light of her own reason, is as absurd as
cruel; for that they who are taught blindly to obey authority, will endeavour cunningly to elude it, is most natural and
certain.
Yet let it be proved, that they ought to obey man implicitly, and I shall
immediately agree that it is woman's duty to cultivate a fondness for dress, in
order to please, and a propensity to cunning for her own preservation.
The virtues, however, which are supported by ignorance, must ever be
wavering--the house built on sand could not endure a storm. It is almost unnecessary to draw the
inference. If women are to be made
virtuous by authority, which is a contradiction in terms, let them be immured
in seraglios and watched with a jealous eye.
Fear not that the iron will enter into their souls--for the souls that can
bear such treatment are made of yielding materials, just animated enough to
give life to the body.
"Matter too soft a lasting mark to bear,
And best distinguish'd by
black, brown, or fair."
The most cruel wounds will of course soon heal, and they may still people
the world, and dress to please man--all the purposes which certain celebrated
writers have allowed that they were created to fill.
SECTION 13.4.
Women are supposed to possess more sensibility, and even humanity, than
men, and their strong attachments and instantaneous emotions of compassion are
given as proofs; but the clinging affection of ignorance has seldom any thing
noble in it, and may mostly be resolved into selfishness, as well as the
affection of children and brutes. I have
known many weak women whose sensibility was entirely engrossed by their
husbands; and as for their humanity, it was very faint indeed, or rather it was
only a transient emotion of compassion, "Humanity does not consist in a
squeamish ear," says an eminent orator.
"It belongs to the mind as well as the nerves."
But this kind of exclusive affection, though it degrade the individual,
should not be brought forward as a proof of the inferiority of the sex, because
it is the natural consequence of confined views: for even women of superior sense, having
their attention turned to little employments, and private plans, rarely rise to
heroism, unless when spurred on by love; and love as an heroic passion, like
genius, appears but once in an age. I therefore
agree with the moralist who asserts, "that women have seldom so much
generosity as men;" and that their narrow affections, to which justice and
humanity are often sacrificed, render the sex apparently inferior, especially
as they are commonly inspired by men; but I contend, that the heart would
expand as the understanding gained strength, if women were not depressed from their
cradles.
I know that a little sensibility and great weakness will produce a strong
sexual attachment, and that reason must cement friendship; consequently I
allow, that more friendship is to be found in the male than the female world,
and that men have a higher sense of justice.
The exclusive affections of women seem indeed to resemble Cato's most
unjust love for his country. He wished
to crush Carthage, not to save Rome, but to promote its vain glory; and in general,
it is to similar principles that humanity is sacrificed, for genuine duties
support each other.
Besides, how can women be just or generous, when they are the slaves of injustice.
SECTION 13.5.
As the rearing of children, that is, the laying a foundation of sound
health both of body and mind in the rising generation, has justly been insisted
on as the peculiar destination of woman, the ignorance that incapacitates them
must be contrary to the order of things.
And I contend, that their minds can take in
much more, and ought to do so, or they will never become sensible mothers. Many men attend to the breeding of horses,
and overlook the management of the stable, who would, strange want of sense and
feeling! Think themselves degraded by paying any
attention to the nursery; yet, how many children are absolutely murdered by the
ignorance of women! But when they escape,
and are neither destroyed by unnatural negligence nor blind fondness, how few
are managed properly with respect to the infant mind! So that to break the spirit, allowed to
become vicious at home, a child is sent to school; and the methods taken there,
which must be taken to keep a number of children in order, scatter the seeds of
almost every vice in the soil thus forcibly torn up.
I have sometimes compared the struggles of these poor children who ought
never to have felt restraint, nor would, had they been always held in with an
even hand, to the despairing plunges of a spirited filly, which I have seen
breaking on a strand;
its feet sinking deeper and deeper in the sand every time it endeavoured to throw its rider, till at last it sullenly
submitted.
I have always found horses, an animal I am attached to, very tractable when
treated with humanity and steadiness, so that I doubt whether the violent
methods taken to break them, do not essentially injure them; I am, however,
certain that a child should never be thus forcibly tamed after it has
injudiciously been allowed to run wild; for every violation of justice and
reason, in the treatment of children, weakens their reason. And, so early do they catch a character, that
the base of the moral character, experience leads me to infer, is fixed before
their seventh year, the period during which women are allowed the sole
management of children. Afterwards it
too often happens that half the business of education
is to correct, and very imperfectly is it done, if done hastily, the faults,
which they would never have acquired if their mothers had had more
understanding.
One striking instance of the folly of women must not be omitted. The manner
in which they treat servants in the presence of children, permitting them to
suppose, that they ought to wait on them, and bear their humours. A child should always be made to receive
assistance from a man or woman as a favour; and, as
the first lesson of independence, they should practically be taught, by the
example of their mother, not to require that personal attendance which it is an
insult to humanity to require, when in health; and instead of being led to
assume airs of consequence, a sense of their own weakness should first make
them feel the natural equality of man.
Yet, how frequently have I indignantly heard servants imperiously called
to put children to bed, and sent away again and again, because master or miss
hung about mamma, to stay a little longer.
Thus made slavishly to attend the little idol, all those most disgusting
humours were exhibited which characterize a spoiled
child.
In short, speaking of the majority of mothers, they leave their children
entirely to the care of servants: or, because they are their children, treat
them as if they were little demi-gods, though I have
always observed, that the women who thus idolize their children, seldom show
common humanity to servants, or feel the least tenderness for any children but
their own.
It is, however, these exclusive affections, and an individual manner of
seeing things, produced by ignorance, which keep women for ever at a stand,
with respect to improvement, and make many of them dedicate their lives to
their children only to weaken their bodies and spoil their tempers, frustrating
also any plan of education that a more rational father may adopt; for unless a mother
concurs, the father who restrains will ever be considered as a tyrant.
But, fulfilling the duties of a mother, a woman with a sound constitution,
may still keep her person scrupulously neat, and assist to maintain her family,
if necessary, or by reading and conversations with both sexes,
indiscriminately, improve her mind. For nature has so wisely ordered things, that did women suckle their children, they would
preserve their own health, and there would be such an interval between the
birth of each child, that we should seldom see a house full of babes. And did they pursue a plan of conduct, and
not waste their time in following the fashionable vagaries of dress, the
management of their household and children need not shut them out from
literature, nor prevent their attaching themselves to a science, with that
steady eye which strengthens the mind, or practising
one of the fine arts that cultivate the taste.
But, visiting to display finery, card playing, and balls, not to mention
the idle bustle of morning trifling, draw women from their duty, to render them
insignificant, to render them pleasing, according to the present acceptation of
the word, to every man, but their husband.
For a round of pleasures in which the affections are not exercised,
cannot be said to improve the understanding, though it be erroneously called
seeing the world; yet the heart is rendered cold and averse to duty, by such a
senseless intercourse, which becomes necessary from habit, even when it has
ceased to amuse.
But, till more equality be established in society, till ranks are confounded
and women freed, we shall not see that dignified domestic happiness, the simple
grandeur of which cannot be relished by ignorant or vitiated minds; nor will
the important task of education ever be properly begun till the person of a
woman is no longer preferred to her mind.
For it would be as wise to expect corn from tares, or figs from
thistles, as that a foolish ignorant woman should be a good mother.
SECTION 13.6.
It is not necessary to inform the sagacious reader, now I enter on my concluding
reflections, that the discussion of this subject merely
consists in opening a few simple principles, and clearing away the rubbish
which obscured them. But, as all readers
are not sagacious, I must be allowed to add some explanatory remarks to bring
the subject home to reason--to that sluggish reason, which supinely takes
opinions on trust, and obstinately supports them to spare itself the labour of thinking.
Moralists have unanimously agreed, that unless virtue be
nursed by liberty, it will never attain due strength--and what they say of man
I extend to mankind, insisting, that in all cases morals must be fixed on
immutable principles; and that the being cannot be termed rational or virtuous,
who obeys any authority but that of reason.
To render women truly useful members of society, I argue, that they should
be led, by having their understandings cultivated on a large scale, to acquire
a rational affection for their country, founded on knowledge, because it is
obvious, that we are little interested about what we do not understand. And to render this general knowledge of due
importance, I have endeavoured to show that private
duties are never properly fulfilled, unless the understanding enlarges the
heart; and that public virtue is only an aggregate of private. But, the distinctions established in society undermine
both, by beating out the solid gold of virtue, till it becomes only the
tinsel-covering of vice; for, whilst wealth renders a man more respectable than
virtue, wealth will be sought before virtue; and, whilst women's persons are
caressed, when a childish simper shows an absence of mind--the mind will lie
fallow. Yet, true voluptuousness must proceed from the mind--for what can equal
the sensations produced by mutual affection, supported by mutual respect? What are the cold or feverish caresses of appetite,
but sin embracing death, compared with the modest overflowings
of a pure heart and exalted imagination?
Yes, let me tell the libertine of fancy when he despises understanding
in woman--that the mind, which he disregards, gives life to the enthusiastic
affection from which rapture, short-lived as it is, alone can flow! And, that, without virtue, a sexual
attachment must expire, like a tallow candle in the socket, creating intolerable
disgust. To prove this, I need only
observe, that men who have wasted great part of their lives with women, and
with whom they have sought for pleasure with eager thirst, entertain the meanest
opinion of the sex. Virtue, true refiner
of joy! If foolish men were to fright thee from earth, in order to give loose to
all their appetites without a check--some sensual wight
of taste would scale the heavens to invite thee back, to give a zest to pleasure!
That women at present are by ignorance rendered foolish or vicious, is, I
think, not to be disputed; and, that the most salutary effects tending to
improve mankind, might be expected from a REVOLUTION in female manners, appears
at least, with a face of probability, to rise out of the observation. For as marriage has been termed the parent of
those endearing charities, which draw man from the brutal herd, the corrupting
intercourse that wealth, idleness, and folly produce between the sexes, is more
universally injurious to morality, than all the other vices of mankind collectively
considered. To adulterous lust the most
sacred duties are sacrificed, because, before marriage, men, by a promiscuous intimacy
with women, learned to consider love as a selfish gratification--learned to
separate it not only from esteem, but from the affection merely built on habit,
which mixes a little humanity with it.
Justice and friendship are also set at defiance, and that purity of
taste is vitiated, which would naturally lead a man to relish an artless
display of affection, rather than affected airs. But that noble simplicity of affection, which
dares to appear unadorned, has few attractions for the libertine, though it be
the charm, which, by cementing the matrimonial tie, secures to the pledges of a
warmer passion the necessary parental attention; for children will never be
properly educated till friendship subsists between parents. Virtue flies from a house divided against
itself--and a whole legion of devils take up their residence there.
The affection of husbands and wives cannot be pure when they have so few
sentiments in common, and when so little confidence is established at home, as
must be the case when their pursuits are so different. That intimacy from which tenderness
should flow, will not, cannot subsist between the vicious.
Contending, therefore, that the sexual distinction, which men have so
warmly insisted upon, is arbitrary, I have dwelt on an observation, that
several sensible men, with whom I have conversed on the subject, allowed to be
well founded; and it is simply this, that the little chastity to be found
amongst men, and consequent disregard of modesty, tend to degrade both sexes;
and further, that the modesty of women, characterized as such, will often be
only the artful veil of wantonness, instead of being the natural reflection of
purity, till modesty be universally respected.
>From the tyranny of man, I firmly believe, the greater number of female
follies proceed; and the cunning, which I allow, makes at present a part of
their character, I likewise have repeatedly endeavoured
to prove, is produced by oppression.
Were not dissenters, for instance, a class of people, with strict truth characterized
as cunning? And may I not lay some stress on this fact to prove, that when any power
but reason curbs the free spirit of man, dissimulation is practised,
and the various shifts of art are naturally called forth? Great attention to decorum, which was carried
to a degree of scrupulosity, and all that puerile
bustle about trifles and consequential solemnity, which Butler's caricature of
a dissenter brings before the imagination, shaped their persons as well as
their minds in the mould of prim littleness.
I speak collectively, for I know how many ornaments to human nature have
been enrolled amongst sectaries; yet, I assert, that the same narrow prejudice
for their sect, which women have for their families, prevailed in the
dissenting part of the community, however worthy in other respects; and also
that the same timid prudence, or headstrong efforts, often disgraced the
exertions of both. Oppression thus
formed many of the features of their character perfectly to coincide with that
of the oppressed half of mankind; for is it not notorious, that dissenters were
like women, fond of deliberating together, and asking advice of each other, till
by a complication of little contrivances, some little end was brought
about? A similar attention to preserve
their reputation was conspicuous in the dissenting and female world, and was produced
by a similar cause.
Asserting the rights which women in common with men ought to contend for, I
have not attempted to extenuate their faults; but to prove them to be the
natural consequence of their education and station in society. If so, it is reasonable to suppose, that they
will change their character, and correct their vices and follies, when they are
allowed to be free in a physical, moral, and civil sense.
Let woman share the rights, and she will emulate
the virtues of man; for she must grow more perfect when emancipated, or justify
the authority that chains such a weak being to her duty. If the latter, it will be expedient to open a
fresh trade with Russia for whips; a present which a father should always make
to his son-in-law on his wedding day, that a husband may keep his whole family
in order by the same means; and without any violation of justice reign,
wielding this sceptre, sole master of his house, because
he is the only being in it who has reason; the divine, indefeasible, earthly
sovereignty breathed into man by the Master of the universe. Allowing this position, women have not any inherent
rights to claim; and, by the same rule their duties vanish, for rights and
duties are inseparable.
Be just then, O ye men of understanding! and mark not more severely what
women do amiss, than the vicious tricks of the horse or the ass for whom ye
provide provender, and allow her the privileges of ignorance, to whom ye deny
the rights of reason, or ye will be worse than Egyptian task-masters, expecting
virtue where nature has not given understanding!