CHAPTER 2.
THE PREVAILING OPINION OF A
SEXUAL CHARACTER DISCUSSED.
To account for, and excuse the tyranny of man, many ingenious arguments
have been brought forward to prove, that the two sexes, in the acquirement of
virtue, ought to aim at attaining a very different character: or, to speak explicitly, women are not allowed
to have sufficient strength of mind to acquire what really deserves the name of
virtue. Yet it should seem, allowing
them to have souls, that there is but one way appointed by providence to lead
MANKIND to either virtue or happiness.
If then women are not a swarm of ephemeron triflers, why should they be
kept in ignorance under the specious name of innocence? Men complain, and with
reason, of the follies and caprices of our sex, when they do not keenly
satirize our headstrong passions and groveling vices. Behold, I should answer, the natural effect of
ignorance! The mind will ever be
unstable that has only prejudices to rest on, and the current will run with
destructive fury when there are no barriers to break its force. Women are told from their infancy, and taught
by the example of their mothers, that a little knowledge of human weakness,
justly termed cunning, softness of temper, OUTWARD obedience, and a scrupulous
attention to a puerile kind of propriety, will obtain for them the protection
of man; and should they be beautiful, every thing else is needless, for at
least twenty years of their lives.
Thus Milton describes our first frail mother; though when he tellsus that women are formed for softness and sweet
attractive grace, I cannot comprehend his meaning, unless, in the true Mahometans train, he meant to deprive us of souls, and
insinuate that we were beings only designed by sweet attractive grace, and
docile blind obedience, to gratify the senses of man when he can no longer soar
on the wing of contemplation.
How grossly do they insult us, who thus advise us only to render ourselves
gentle, domestic brutes! For instance,
the winning softness, so warmly, and frequently
recommended, that governs by obeying.
What childish expressions, and how insignificant is the being--can it be
an immortal one? who
will condescend to govern by such sinister methods! "Certainly," says Lord Bacon,
"man is of kin to the beasts by his body: and if he be not of kin to God
by his spirit, he is a base and ignoble creature!" Men, indeed, appear to me to act in a very un philosophical manner, when they try to secure the good
conduct of women by attempting to keep them always in a state of
childhood. Rousseau was more consistent
when he wished to stop the progress of reason in both sexes; for if men eat of
the tree of knowledge, women will come in for a taste: but, from the imperfect cultivation which
their understandings now receive, they only attain a
knowledge of evil.
Children, I grant, should be innocent; but when the epithet is applied to
men, or women, it is but a civil term for weakness. For if it be allowed that women were destined
by Providence to acquire human virtues, and by the exercise of their
understandings, that stability of character which is the firmest ground to rest
our future hopes upon, they must be permitted to turn to the fountain of light,
and not forced to shape their course by the twinkling of a mere satellite. Milton, I grant, was of a very different opinion;
for he only bends to the indefeasible right of beauty, though it would be difficult
to render two passages, which I now mean to contrast, consistent: but into similar inconsistencies are great
men often led by their senses:--
"To whom thus Eve with perfect beauty adorned:
My author and disposer, what thou bidst
Unargued I obey; so God
ordains;
God is thy law, thou mine; to know no more
Is woman's happiest knowledge and her praise."
These are exactly the arguments that I have used to children; but I have
added, "Your reason is now gaining strength, and, till it arrives at some
degree of maturity, you must look up to me for advice: then you ought to THINK, and only rely on
God."
Yet, in the following lines, Milton seems to coincide with me, when he
makes Adam thus expostulate with his Maker:--
"Hast thou not made me here thy substitute,
And these inferior far beneath me set?
Among unequals what society
Can sort, what harmony or delight?
Which must be mutual, in proportion due
Given and received; but in disparity
The one intense, the other still remiss
Cannot well suit with either, but soon prove
Tedious alike: of fellowship I speak
Such as I seek fit to participate
All rational delight."
In treating, therefore, of the manners of women, let us, disregarding
sensual arguments, trace what we should endeavour to make
them in order to co-operate, if the expression be not too bold, with the
Supreme Being.
By individual education, I mean--for the sense of the word is not precisely
defined--such an attention to a child as will slowly sharpen the senses, form
the temper, regulate the passions, as they begin to ferment, and set the
understanding to work before the body arrives at maturity; so that the man may
only have to proceed, not to begin, the important task of learning to think and
reason.
To prevent any misconstruction, I must add, that I do not believe that a
private education can work the wonders which some sanguine writers have
attributed to it. Men and women must be
educated, in a great degree, by the opinions and manners of the society they live
in. In every age there has been a stream
of popular opinion that has carried all before it, and given a family
character, as it were, to the century.
It may then fairly be inferred, that, till society be differently
constituted, much cannot be expected from education. It is, however, sufficient for my present
purpose to assert, that, whatever effect circumstances have on the abilities, every
being may become virtuous by the exercise of its own reason; for if but one
being was created with vicious inclinations—that is, positively bad-- what can
save us from atheism? or if we worship a God, is not
that God a devil?
Consequently, the most perfect education, in my opinion, is such an exercise
of the understanding as is best calculated to strengthen the body and form the
heart; or, in other words, to enable the individual to attain such habits of
virtue as will render it independent. In
fact, it is a farce to call any being virtuous whose virtues do not result from
the exercise of its own reason. This was Rousseau's opinion respecting men: I extend it to women, and confidently assert
that they have been drawn out of their sphere by false refinement, and not by
an endeavour to acquire masculine qualities. Still the regal homage which they receive is so
intoxicating, that, till the manners of the times are changed, and formed on
more reasonable principles, it may be impossible to convince them that the
illegitimate power, which they obtain by degrading themselves, is a curse, and
that they must return to nature and equality, if they wish to secure the placid
satisfaction that unsophisticated affections impart. But for this epoch we must wait--wait,
perhaps, till kings and nobles, enlightened by reason, and, preferring the real
dignity of man to childish state, throw off their gaudy hereditary trappings;
and if then women do not resign the arbitrary power of beauty, they will prove
that they have LESS mind than man. I may
be accused of arrogance; still I must declare, what I firmly believe, that all
the writers who have written on the subject of female education and manners,
from Rousseau to Dr. Gregory, have contributed to render women more artificial,
weaker characters, than they would otherwise have been; and, consequently, more
useless members of society. I might have
expressed this conviction in a lower key; but I am afraid it would have been
the whine of affectation, and not the faithful expression of my feelings, of
the clear result, which experience and reflection have led me to draw. When I come to that division of the subject,
I shall advert to the passages that I more particularly disapprove of, in the
works of the authors I have just alluded to; but it is first necessary to
observe, that my objection extends to the whole purport of those books, which
tend, in my opinion, to degrade one half of the human species, and render women
pleasing at the expense of every solid virtue.
Though to reason on Rousseau's ground, if man did attain a degree of
perfection of mind when his body arrived at maturity, it might be proper in
order to make a man and his wife ONE, that she should rely entirely on his
understanding; and the graceful ivy, clasping the oak that supported it, would
form a whole in which strength and beauty would be equally conspicuous. But, alas! husbands,
as well as their helpmates, are often only overgrown children; nay, thanks to
early debauchery, scarcely men in their outward form, and if the blind lead the
blind, one need not come from heaven to tell us the consequence.
Many are the causes that, in the present corrupt state of society, contribute
to enslave women by cramping their understandings and sharpening their
senses. One, perhaps, that silently does
more mischief than all the rest, is their disregard of order.
To do every thing in an orderly manner, is a most important precept, which
women, who, generally speaking, receive only a disorderly kind of education,
seldom attend to with that degree of exactness that men, who from their infancy
are broken into method, observe. This
negligent kind of guesswork, for what other epithet can be used to point out
the random exertions of a sort of instinctive common sense, never brought to
the test of reason? prevents their generalizing
matters of fact, so they do to-day, what they did yesterday, merely because
they did it yesterday.
This contempt of the understanding in early life has more baneful consequences
than is commonly supposed; for the little knowledge which women of strong minds
attain, is, from various circumstances, of a more desultory kind than the
knowledge of men, and it is acquired more by sheer observations on real life,
than from comparing what has been individually observed with the results of experience
generalized by speculation. Led by their
dependent situation and domestic employments more into society, what they learn
is rather by snatches; and as learning is with them, in general, only a
secondary thing, they do not pursue any one branch with that persevering ardour necessary to give vigour
to the faculties, and clearness to the judgment. In the present state of society, a little
learning is required to support the character of a gentleman; and boys are
obliged to submit to a few years of discipline.
But in the education of women the cultivation of the understanding is
always subordinate to the acquirement of some corporeal accomplishment; even
while enervated by confinement and false notions of modesty, the body is
prevented from attaining that grace and beauty which relaxed half-formed limbs
never exhibit. Besides, in youth their faculties are not brought forward by emulation;
and having no serious scientific study, if they have natural sagacity it is
turned too soon on life and manners.
They dwell on effects, and modifications, without tracing them back to causes;
and complicated rules to adjust behaviour are a weak substitute
for simple principles.
As a proof that education gives this appearance of weakness to females, we
may instance the example of military men, who are, like them, sent into the
world before their minds have been stored with knowledge or fortified by
principles. The consequences are similar;
soldiers acquire a little superficial knowledge, snatched from the muddy
current of conversation, and, from continually mixing with society, they gain,
what is termed a knowledge of the world; and this
acquaintance with manners and customs has frequently been confounded with a
knowledge of the human heart. But can the crude fruit of casual observation,
never brought to the test of judgment, formed by comparing speculation and
experience, deserve such a distinction? Soldiers, as well as women, practice the
minor virtues with punctilious politeness.
Where is then the sexual difference, when the education has been the
same; all the difference that I can discern, arises from the superior advantage
of liberty which enables the former to see more of life.
It is wandering from my present subject, perhaps, to make a political
remark; but as it was produced naturally by the train of my reflections, I
shall not pass it silently over.
Standing armies can never consist of resolute, robust men; they may be well
disciplined machines, but they will seldom contain men under the influence of
strong passions or with very vigorous faculties. And as for any depth of understanding, I will
venture to affirm, that it is as rarely to be found in the army as amongst women;
and the cause, I maintain, is the same.
It may be further observed, that officers are also particularly
attentive to their persons, fond of dancing, crowded rooms, adventures, and
ridicule. Like the FAIR sex, the business of their lives is gallantry. They were taught to please, and they only
live to please. Yet they do not lose
their rank in the distinction of sexes, for they are still reckoned superior to
women, though in what their superiority consists, beyond what I have just
mentioned, it is difficult to discover.
The great misfortune is this, that they both acquire manners before morals,
and a knowledge of life before they have from
reflection, any acquaintance with the grand ideal outline of human nature. The consequence is natural; satisfied with
common nature, they become a prey to prejudices, and taking all their opinions
on credit, they blindly submit to authority.
So that if they have any sense, it is a kind of instinctive glance, that
catches proportions, and decides with respect to manners; but fails when
arguments are to be pursued below the surface, or opinions analyzed.
May not the same remark be applied to women? Nay, the argument may be carried still
further, for they are both thrown out of a useful station by the unnatural
distinctions established in civilized life.
Riches and hereditary honours have made cyphers of women to give consequence to the numerical
figure; and idleness has produced a mixture of gallantry and despotism in society,
which leads the very men who are the slaves of their mistresses, to tyrannize
over their sisters, wives, and daughters.
This is only keeping them in rank and file, it is true. Strengthen the female mind by enlarging it,
and there will be an end to blind obedience; but, as blind obedience is ever
sought for by power, tyrants and sensualists are in the right when they endeavour to keep women in the dark, because the former
only want slaves, and the latter a play-thing. The sensualist, indeed, has been the most
dangerous of tyrants, and women have been duped by their lovers, as princes by
their ministers, whilst dreaming that they reigned over them.
I now principally allude to Rousseau, for his character of Sophia is,
undoubtedly, a captivating one, though it appears to me grossly unnatural;
however, it is not the superstructure, but the foundation of her character, the
principles on which her education was built, that I mean to attack; nay, warmly
as I admire the genius of that able writer, whose opinions I shall often have occasion
to cite, indignation always takes place of admiration, and the rigid frown of
insulted virtue effaces the smile ofcomplacency,
which his eloquent periods are wont to raise, when I read his voluptuous
reveries. Is this the man, who, in his ardour for virtue, would banish all the soft arts of peace,
and almost carry us back to Spartan discipline?
Is this the man who delights to paint the useful struggles of passion,
the triumphs of good dispositions, and the heroic flights which carry the
glowing soul out of itself? How are
these mighty sentiments lowered when he describes the prettyfoot
and enticing airs of his little favourite! But, for
the present, I waive the subject, and, instead of severely reprehending the
transient effusions of overweening sensibility, I shall only observe, that
whoever has cast a benevolent eye on society, must often have been gratified by
the sight of humble mutual love, not dignified by sentiment, nor strengthened
by a union in intellectual pursuits. The
domestic trifles of the day have afforded matter for cheerful converse, and
innocent caresses have softened toils which did not require great exercise of
mind, or stretch of thought: yet, has
not the sight of this moderate felicity excited more tenderness than
respect? An emotion similar to what we
feel when children are playing, or animals sporting, whilst the contemplation
of the noble struggles of suffering merit has raised admiration, and carried
our thoughts to that world where sensation will give place to reason.
Women are, therefore, to be considered either as moral beings, or so weak
that they must be entirely subjected to the superior faculties of men.
Let us examine this question.
Rousseau declares, that a woman should never, for a moment feel herself
independent, that she should be governed by fear to exercise her NATURAL
cunning, and made a coquetish slave in order to
render her a more alluring object of desire, a SWEETER companion to man,
whenever he chooses to relax himself. He
carries the arguments, which he pretends to draw from the indications of
nature, still further, and insinuates that truth and fortitude the corner
stones of all human virtue, shall be cultivated with certain restrictions,
because with respect to the female character, obedience is the grand lesson
which ought to be impressed with unrelenting rigour.
What nonsense! When will a great man
arise with sufficient strength of mind to puff away the fumes which pride and
sensuality have thus spread over the subject!
If women are by nature inferior to men, their virtues must be the same
in quality, if not in degree, or virtue is a relative idea; consequently, their
conduct should be founded on the same principles, and have the same aim.
Connected with man as daughters, wives, and mothers, their moral character
may be estimated by their manner of fulfilling those simple duties; but the
end, the grand end of their exertions should be to unfold their own faculties,
and acquire the dignity of conscious virtue.
They may try to render their road pleasant; but ought never to forget,
in common with man, that life yields not the felicity which can satisfy an
immortal soul. I do not mean to insinuate,
that either sex should be so lost, in abstract reflections or distant views, as
to forget the affections and duties that lie before them, and are, in truth,
the means appointed to produce the fruit of life; on the contrary, I would
warmly recommend them, even while I assert, that they afford most satisfaction
when they are considered in their true subordinate light.
Probably the prevailing opinion, that woman was created for man, may have
taken its rise from Moses's poetical story; yet, as
very subject, ever supposed that Eve was, literally speaking, one of Adam's
ribs, the deduction must be allowed to fall to the ground; or, only be so far
admitted as it proves that man, from the remotest antiquity, found it
convenient to exert his strength to subjugate his companion, and his invention
to show that she ought to have her neck bent under the yoke; because she as
well as the brute creation, was created to do his pleasure.
Let it not be concluded, that I wish to invert the order of things; I have
already granted, that, from the constitution of their bodies, men seem to be
designed by Providence to attain a greater degree of virtue. I speak collectively of the whole sex; but I
see not the shadow of a reason to conclude that their virtues should differ in
respect to their nature. In fact, how
can they, if virtue has only one eternal standard? I must, therefore, if I reason
consequentially, as strenuously maintain, that they have the same simple
direction, as that there is a God.
It follows then, that cunning should not be opposed to wisdom, little cares
to great exertions, nor insipid softness, varnished over with the name of
gentleness, to that fortitude which grand views alone can inspire.
I shall be told, that woman would then lose many of her peculiar graces,
and the opinion of a well known poet might be quoted to refute my unqualified
assertions. For Pope has said, in the
name of the whole male sex,
"Yet ne'er so sure our passions to create,
As when she touch'd the
brink of all we hate."
In what light this sally places men and women, I shall leave to the judicious
to determine; meanwhile I shall content myself with observing, that I cannot
discover why, unless they are mortal, females should always be degraded by
being made subservient to love or lust.
To speak disrespectfully of love is, I know, high treason against sentiment
and fine feelings; but I wish to speak the simple language of truth, and rather
to address the head than the heart. To endeavour to
reason love out of the world, would be to out Quixote Cervantes, and equally
offend against common sense; but an endeavour to
restrain this tumultuous passion, and to prove that it should not be allowed to
dethrone superior powers, or to usurp the sceptre
which the understanding should ever coolly wield, appears less wild.
Youth is the season for love in both sexes; but in those days of thoughtless
enjoyment, provision should be made for the more important years of life, when
reflection takes place of sensation. But Rousseau, and most of the male writers
who have followed his steps, have warmly inculcated that the whole tendency of
female education ought to be directed to one point to render them pleasing.
Let me reason with the supporters of this opinion, who have any knowledge
of human nature, do they imagine that marriage can eradicate the habitude of
life? The woman
who has only been taught to please, will soon find that her charms are oblique
sun-beams, and that they cannot have much effect on her husband's heart when they
are seen every day, when the summer is past and gone. Will she then have sufficient native energy
to look into herself for comfort, and cultivate her dormant faculties? or, is it not more rational to expect, that she will try to
please other men; and, in the emotions raised by the expectation of new
conquests, endeavour to forget the mortification her
love or pride has received? When the
husband ceases to be a lover--and the time will inevitably come, her desire of
pleasing will then grow languid, or become a spring of bitterness; and love,
perhaps, the most evanescent of all passions, gives place to jealousy or
vanity.
I now speak of women who are restrained by principle or prejudice; such
women though they would shrink from an intrigue with real abhorrence, yet,
nevertheless, wish to be convinced by the homage of gallantry, that they are
cruelly neglected by their husbands; or, days and weeks are spent in dreaming
of the happiness enjoyed by congenial souls, till the health is undermined and
the spirits broken by discontent. How
then can the great art of pleasing be such a necessary study? it is only useful
to a mistress; the chaste wife, and serious mother, should only consider her
power to please as the polish of her virtues, and the affection of her husband
as one of the comforts that render her task less difficult, and her life
happier. But, whether she be loved or
neglected, her first wish should be to make herself respectable, and not rely
for all her happiness on a being subject to like infirmities with herself.
The amiable Dr. Gregory fell into a similar error. I respect his heart; but entirely disapprove
of his celebrated Legacy to his Daughters.
He advises them to cultivate a fondness for dress, because a fondness for
dress, he asserts, is natural to them. I
am unable to comprehend what either he or Rousseau mean, when they frequently use
this indefinite term. If they told us,
that in a pre-existent state the soul was fond of dress, and brought this
inclination with it into a new body, I should listen to them with a half smile,
as often do when I hear a rant about
innate elegance. But if he only meant to
say that the exercise of the faculties will produce this fondness, I deny
it. It is not natural; but arises, like
false ambition in men, from a love of power.
Dr. Gregory goes much further; he actually recommends dissimulation, and
advises an innocent girl to give the lie to her feelings, and not dance with
spirit, when gaiety of heart would make her feet eloquent, without making her
gestures immodest. In the name of truth
and common sense, why should not one woman acknowledge that she can take more
exercise than another? or, in other words, that she
has a sound constitution; and why to damp innocent vivacity, is she darkly to
be told, that men will draw conclusions which she little thinks of? Let the libertine draw what inference he
pleases; but, I hope, that no sensible mother will restrain the natural
frankness of youth, by instilling such indecent cautions. Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh; and a wiser than Solomon hath said, that the
heart should be made clean, and not trivial ceremonies observed, which it is
not very difficult to fulfill with scrupulous exactness when vice reigns in the
heart.
Women ought to endeavour to purify their hearts;
but can they do so when their uncultivated understandings make them entirely
dependent on their senses for employment and amusement, when no noble pursuit sets
them above the little vanities of the day, or enables them to curb the wild
emotions that agitate a reed over which every passing breeze has power? To gain the affections of a virtuous man, is affectation necessary?
Nature has given woman a weaker frame than man; but, to ensure her husband's
affections, must a wife, who, by the exercise of her mind
and body, whilst she was discharging the duties of a daughter, wife, and
mother, has allowed her constitution to retain its natural strength, and her
nerves a healthy tone, is she, I say, tocondescend,
to use art, and feign a sickly delicacy, in order to secure her husband's
affection? Weakness may excite tenderness, and gratify the arrogant pride of
man; but the lordly caresses of a protector will not gratify a noble mind that
pants for and deserves to be respected.
Fondness is a poor substitute for friendship!
In a seraglio, I grant, that all these arts are necessary; the epicure must
have his palate tickled, or he will sink into apathy; but have women so little
ambition as to be satisfied with such a condition? Can they supinely dream life away in the lap
of pleasure, or in the languor of weariness, rather than assert their claim to
pursue reasonable pleasures, and render themselves conspicuous, by practising the virtues which dignify mankind? Surely she
has not an immortal soul who can loiter life away, merely
employed to adorn her person, that she may amuse the languid hours, and soften
the cares of a fellow-creature who is willing to be enlivened by her smiles and
tricks, when the serious business of life is over.
Besides, the woman who strengthens her body and exercises her mind will, by
managing her family and practising various virtues,
become the friend, and not the humble dependent of her husband; and if she deserves
his regard by possessing such substantial qualities, she will not find it
necessary to conceal her affection, nor to pretend to an unnatural coldness of
constitution to excite her husband's passions.
In fact, if we revert to history, we shall find that the women who have
distinguished themselves have neither been the most beautiful nor the most gentle of their sex.
Nature, or to speak with strict propriety God, has made all thingsright; but man has sought him out many inventions to
mar the work. I now allude to that part of Dr. Gregory's treatise, where he advises
a wife never to let her husband know the extent of hersensibility
or affection. Voluptuous precaution; and
as ineffectual as absurd. Love, from its
very nature, must be transitory. To seek
for a secret that would render it constant, would be as wild a search as for
the philosopher's stone, or the grand panacea; and the discovery would be
equally useless, or rather pernicious to mankind. The most holy band of society is friendship. It has been well said, by a shrewd satirist,
"that rare as true love is, true friendship is still rarer."
This is an obvious truth, and the cause not lying deep, will not elude a
slight glance of inquiry.
Love, the common passion, in which chance and sensation take place of
choice and reason, is in some degree, felt by the mass of mankind; for it is
not necessary to speak, at present, of the emotions that rise above or sink
below love. This passion, naturally
increased by suspense and difficulties, draws the mind out of its accustomed
state, and exalts the affections; but the security of marriage, allowing the
fever of love to subside, a healthy temperature is thought insipid, only by
those who have not sufficient intellect to substitute the calm tenderness of friendship,
the confidence of respect, instead of blind admiration, and the sensual
emotions of fondness.
This is, must be, the course of nature--friendship or indifference inevitably
succeeds love. And this constitution
seems perfectly to harmonize with the system of government which prevails in
the moral world. Passions are spurs to
action, and open the mind; but they sink into mere appetites, become a personal
momentary gratification, when the object is gained, and the satisfied mind rests
in enjoyment. The man who had some
virtue whilst he was struggling for a crown, often becomes a voluptuous tyrant
when it graces his brow; and, when the lover is not lost in the husband, the
dotard a prey to childish caprices, and fond jealousies, neglects the serious
duties of life, and the caresses which should excite confidence in his children
are lavished on the overgrown child, his wife.
In order to fulfil the duties of life, and to be
able to pursue with vigour the various employments
which form the moral character, a master and mistress of a family ought not to
continue to love each other with passion.
I mean to say, that they ought not to indulge those emotions which
disturb the order of society, and engross the thoughts that should be otherwise
employed. The mind that has never been
engrossed by one object wants vigour--if it can long
be so, it is weak.
A mistaken education, a narrow, uncultivated mind, and many sexual prejudices,
tend to make women more constant than men; but, for the present, I shall not
touch on this branch of the subject. I
will go still further, and advance, without dreaming of a paradox, that an
unhappy marriage is often very advantageous to a family, and that the neglected
wife is, in general, the best mother.
And this would almost always be the consequence, if the female mind was
more enlarged; for, it seems to be the common dispensation of Providence, that
what we gain in present enjoyment should be deducted from the treasure of life,
experience; and that when we are gathering the flowers of the day and revelling in pleasure, the solid fruit of toil and wisdom should
not be caught at the same time. The way
lies before us, we must turn to the right or left; and he who will pass life
away in bounding from one pleasure to another, must not complain if he neither
acquires wisdom nor respectability of character.
Supposing for a moment, that the soul is not immortal, and that man was
only created for the present scene; I think we should have reason to complain
that love, infantine fondness, ever grew insipid and palled upon the
sense. Let us eat,
drink, and love, for to-morrow we die, would be in fact the language of reason,
the morality of life; and who but a fool would part with a reality for a
fleeting shadow? But, if awed by
observing the improvable powers of the mind, we disdain to confine our wishes
or thoughts to such a comparatively mean field of action; that only appears
grand and important as it is connected with a boundless prospect and sublime hopes;
what necessity is there for falsehood in conduct, and why must the sacred
majesty of truth be violated to detain a deceitful good that saps the very
foundation of virtue? Why must the
female mind be tainted by coquetish arts to gratify
the sensualist, and prevent love from subsiding into friendship or
compassionate tenderness, when there are not qualities on which friendship can
be built? Let the honest heart show
itself, and REASON teach passion to submit to necessity; or, let the dignified
pursuit of virtue and knowledge raise the mind above those emotions which
rather imbitter than sweeten the cup of life, when
they are not restrained within due bounds.
I do not mean to allude to the romantic passion, which is the concomitant
of genius. Who can clip its wings? But that grand passion not proportioned to
the puny enjoyments of life, is only true to the sentiment, and feeds on
itself. The passions which have been
celebrated for their durability have always been unfortunate. They have acquired strength by absence and constitutional
melancholy. The fancy has hovered round
a form of beauty dimly seen--but familiarity might have turned admiration into
disgust; or, at least, into indifference, and allowed the imagination leisure
to start fresh game. With perfect
propriety, according to this view of things, does Rousseau make the mistress of
his soul, Eloisa, love St. Preux, when life was
fading before her; but this is no proof of the immortality of the passion.
Of the same complexion is Dr. Gregory's advice respecting delicacy of
sentiment, which he advises a woman not to acquire, if she has determined to
marry. This determination, however,
perfectly consistent with his former advice, he calls INDELICATE, and earnestly
persuades his daughters to conceal it, though it may govern their conduct: as if it were indelicate to have the common appetites
of human nature.
Noble morality! and consistent with the cautious
prudence of a little soul that cannot extend its views beyond the present
minute division of existence. If all the
faculties of woman's mind are only to be cultivated as they respect her
dependence on man; if, when she obtains a husband she has arrived at her goal,
and meanly proud, is satisfied with such a paltry crown, let her grovel contentedly,
scarcely raised by her employments above the animal kingdom; but, if she is
struggling for the prize of her high calling, let her cultivate her
understanding without stopping to consider what character the husband may have
whom she is destined to marry. Let her
only determine, without being too anxious about present happiness, to acquire
the qualities that ennoble a rational being, and a rough, inelegant husband may
shock her taste without destroying her peace of mind. She will not model her soul to suit the
frailties of her companion, but to bear with them: his character may be a trial, but not an
impediment to virtue.
If Dr. Gregory confined his remark to romantic expectations of constant
love and congenial feelings, he should have recollected, that experience will
banish what advice can never make us cease to wish for, when the imagination is
kept alive at the expence of reason.
I own it frequently happens, that women who have fostered a romantic
unnatural delicacy of feeling, waste their lives in
IMAGINING how happy they should have been with a husband who could love
them with a fervid increasing affection every day, and all day. But they might as well pine married as
single, and would not be a jot more unhappy with a bad
husband than longing for a good one.
That a proper education; or, to speak with more precision, a well stored
mind, would enable a woman to support a single life with dignity, I grant; but
that she should avoid cultivating her taste, lest her husband should
occasionally shock it, is quitting a substance for a shadow. To say the truth, I do not know of what use
is an improved taste, if the individual be not rendered more independent of the
casualties of life; if new sources of enjoyment, only dependent on the solitary
operations of the mind, are not opened.
People of taste, married or single, without distinction, will ever be
disgusted by various things that touch not less observing minds. On this conclusion the argument must not be allowed
to hinge; but in the whole sum of enjoyment is taste to be denominated a
blessing?
The question is, whether it procures most pain or pleasure? The answer will decide the propriety of Dr.
Gregory's advice, and show how absurd and tyrannic it
is thus to lay down a system of slavery; or to attempt to educate moral beings
by any other rules than those deduced from pure reason, which apply to the
whole species.
Gentleness of manners, forbearance, and long suffering, are such amiable
godlike qualities, that in sublime poetic strains the Deity has been invested
with them; and, perhaps, no representation of his goodness so strongly fastens
on the human affections as those that represent him abundant in mercy and
willing to pardon. Gentleness, considered
in this point of view, bears on its front all the characteristics of grandeur,
combined with the winning graces of condescension; but what a different aspect
it assumes when it is the submissive demeanour of
dependence, the support of weakness that loves, because it wants protection;
and is forbearing, because it must silently endure injuries; smiling under the
lash at which it dare not snarl. Abject
as this picture appears, it is the portrait of an accomplished woman, according
to the received opinion of female excellence, separated by specious reasoners from human excellence. Or, they (Vide Rousseau,
and Swedenborg) kindly restore the rib, and make one moral being of a man and
woman; not forgetting to give her all the "submissive charms."
How women are to exist in that state where there is to be neither marrying
nor giving in marriage, we are not told.
For though moralists have agreed, that the tenor of life seems to prove
that MAN is prepared by various circumstances for a future state, they constantly
concur in advising WOMAN only to provide for the present. Gentleness, docility, and a spaniel-like
affection are, on this ground, consistently recommended as the cardinal virtues
of the sex; and, disregarding the arbitrary economy of nature, one writer has
declared that it is masculine for a woman to be melancholy. She was created to be the toy of man, his
rattle, and it must jingle in his ears, whenever, dismissing reason, he chooses
to be amused.
To recommend gentleness, indeed, on a broad basis is strictly philosophical. A frail being should labour
to be gentle. But when forbearance
confounds right and wrong, it ceases to be a virtue; and, however convenient it
may be found in a companion, that companion will ever be considered as an
inferior, and only inspire a vapid tenderness, which easily degenerates into
contempt. Still, if advice could really
make a being gentle, whose natural disposition admitted not of such a fine
polish, something toward the advancement of order would be attained; but if, as
might quickly be demonstrated, only affectation be produced by this indiscriminate
counsel, which throws a stumbling block in the way of gradual improvement, and
true melioration of temper, the sex is not much benefited by sacrificing solid
virtues to the attainment of superficial graces, though for a few years they
may procure the individual's regal sway.
As a philosopher, I read with indignation the plausible epithets which men
use to soften their insults; and, as a moralist, I ask what is meant by such
heterogeneous associations, as fair defects, amiable weaknesses, etc.? If there
is but one criterion of morals, but one archetype for man, women appear to be
suspended by destiny, according to the vulgar tale of Mahomet's coffin; they
have neither the unerring instinct of brutes, nor are allowed to fix the eye of
reason on a perfect model. They were
made to be loved, and must not aim at respect, lest they should be hunted out
of society as masculine.
But to view the subject in another point of view. Do passive indolent women make the best
wives? Confining our discussion to the
present moment of existence, let us see how such weak creatures perform their part? Do the women who, by the attainment of a few superficial
accomplishments, have strengthened the prevailing prejudice, merely contribute
to the happiness of their husbands? Do they display their charms merely to
amuse them? And have women, who have early
imbibed notions of passive obedience, sufficient character to manage a family
or educate children? So far from it, that, after surveying the history of woman, I
cannot help agreeing with the severest satirist, considering the sex as the
weakest as well as the most oppressed half of the species. What does history disclose but marks of
inferiority, and how few women have emancipated themselves from the galling
yoke of sovereign man? So few, that the
exceptions remind me of an ingenious conjecture respecting Newton: that he was probably a being of a superior order,
accidentally caged in a human body. In
the same style I have been led to imagine that the few extraordinary women who have rushed in eccentrical
directions out of the orbit prescribed to their sex, were MALE spirits,
confined by mistake in a female frame.
But if it be not philosophical to think of sex when the soul is
mentioned, the inferiority must depend on the organs; or the heavenly fire,
which is to ferment the clay, is not given in equal portions.
But avoiding, as I have hitherto done, any direct comparison of the two
sexes collectively, or frankly acknowledging the inferiority of woman,
according to the present appearance of things, I shall only insist, that men
have increased that inferiority till women are almost sunk below the standard
of rational creatures. Let their faculties
have room to unfold, and their virtues to gain strength, and then determine
where the whole sex must stand in the intellectual scale. Yet, let it be remembered, that for a small number
of distinguished women I do not ask a place.
It is difficult for us purblind mortals to say to what height human discoveries
and improvements may arrive, when the gloom of despotism subsides, which makes
us stumble at every step; but, when morality shall be settled on a more solid
basis, then, without being gifted with a prophetic spirit, I will venture to
predict, that woman will be either the friend or slave of man. We shall not, as at present, doubt whether
she is a moral agent, or the link which unites man with brutes. But, should it then appear, that like the
brutes they were principally created for the use of man, he will let them
patiently bite the bridle, and not mock them with empty praise; or, should
their rationality be proved, he will not impede their improvement merely to
gratify his sensual appetites. He will not with all the graces of rhetoric, advise them to submit implicitly their understandings to the
guidance of man. He will not, when he treats of the education of women, assert, that they ought never to have the free use of
reason, nor would he recommend cunning and dissimulation to beings who are
acquiring, in like manner as himself, the virtues of humanity.
Surely there can be but one rule of right, if morality has an eternal
foundation, and whoever sacrifices virtue, strictly so called, to present
convenience, or whose DUTY it is to act in such a
manner, lives only for the passing day, and cannot be an accountable creature.
The poet then should have dropped his sneer when he says,
"If weak women go astray,
The stars are more in fault than they."
For that they are bound by the adamantine chain of destiny is most certain,
if it be proved that they are never to exercise their own reason, never to be
independent, never to rise above opinion, or to feel the dignity of a rational
will that only bows to God, and often forgets that the universe contains any
being but itself, and the model of perfection to which its ardent gaze is
turned, to adore attributes that, softened into virtues, may be imitated in kind,
though the degree overwhelms the enraptured mind.
If, I say, for I would not impress by declamation when reason offers her
sober light, if they are really capable of acting like rational creatures, let
them not be treated like slaves; or, like the brutes who are dependent on the
reason of man, when they associate with him; but cultivate their minds, give
them the salutary, sublime curb of principle, and let them attain conscious dignity
by feeling themselves only dependent on God.
Teach them, in common with man, to submit to necessity, instead of
giving, to render them more pleasing, a sex to morals.
Further, should experience prove that they cannot attain the same degree of
strength of mind, perseverance and fortitude, let their virtues be the same in
kind, though they may vainly struggle for the same degree; and the superiority
of man will be equally clear, if not clearer; and truth, as it is a simple
principle, which admits of no modification, would be common to both. Nay, the order of society, as it is at
present regulated, would not be inverted, for woman would then only have the
rank that reason assigned her, and arts could not be practised
to bring the balance even, much less to turn it.
These may be termed Utopian dreams.
Thanks to that Being who impressed them on my soul, and gave me
sufficient strength of mind to dare to exert my own reason, till becoming
dependent only on him for the support of my virtue, I view with indignation,
the mistaken notions that enslave my sex.
I love man as my fellow; but his sceptre real or usurped, extends not to me, unless the reason of an
individual demands my homage; and even then the submission is to reason, and
not to man. In fact, the conduct of an
accountable being must be regulated by the operations of its own reason; or on
what foundation rests the throne of God?
It appears to me necessary to dwell on these obvious truths, because
females have been insulted, as it were; and while they have been stripped of
the virtues that should clothe humanity, they have been decked with artificial
graces, that enable them to exercise a short lived tyranny. Love, in their bosoms, taking place of every nobler
passion, their sole ambition is to be fair, to raise emotion instead of
inspiring respect; and this ignoble desire, like the servility in absolute
monarchies, destroys all strength of character.
Liberty is the mother of virtue, and if women are, by their very
constitution, slaves, and not allowed to breathe the sharp invigorating air of
freedom, they must ever languish like exotics, and be reckoned beautiful flaws
in nature; let it also be remembered, that they are the only flaw.
As to the argument respecting the subjection in which the sex has ever been
held, it retorts on man. The many have
always been enthralled by the few; and, monsters who have scarcely shown any discernment
of human excellence, have tyrannized over thousands of their fellow
creatures. Why have men of superior
endowments submitted to such degradation?
For, is it not universally acknowledged that kings, viewed collectively,
have ever been inferior, in abilities and virtue, to the same number of men
taken from the common mass of mankind--yet, have they not, and are they not
still treated with a degree of reverence, that is an insult to reason? China is not the only country where a living
man has been made a God. MEN have
submitted to superior strength, to enjoy with impunity the pleasure of the
moment--WOMEN have only done the same, and therefore till it is proved that the
courtier, who servilely resigns the birthright of a
man, is not a moral agent, it cannot be demonstrated that woman is essentially
inferior to man, because she has always been subjugated.
Brutal force has hitherto governed the world, and that the science of
politics is in its infancy, is evident from philosophers scrupling to give the
knowledge most useful to man that determinate distinction.
I shall not pursue this argument any further than to establish an obvious inference, that as sound politics diffuse liberty, mankind, including
woman, will become more wise and virtuous.