CHAPTER 5.
ANIMADVERSIONS ON SOME OF THE
WRITERS WHO HAVE RENDERED WOMEN OBJECTS OF PITY, BORDERING ON CONTEMPT.
The opinions speciously supported, in some modern publications on the
female character, and education, which have given the tone to most of the
observations made, in a more cursory manner, on the sex, remain now to be
examined.
SECTION 5.1.
I shall begin with Rousseau, and give a sketch of the character of women in
his own words, interspersing comments and reflections. My comments, it is true, will all spring from
a few simple principles, and might have been deduced from what I have already
said; but the artificial structure has been raised with so much ingenuity, that
it seems necessary to attack it in a more circumstantial manner, and make the
application myself.
Sophia, says Rousseau, should be as perfect a woman as Emilius
is a man, and to render her so, it is necessary to examine the character which
nature has given to the sex.
He then proceeds to prove, that women ought to be weak and passive, because
she has less bodily strength than man; and from hence infers, that she was
formed to please and to be subject to him; and that it is her duty to render
herself AGREEABLE to her master—this being the grand end of her existence.
Supposing women to have been formed only to please, and be subject to man,
the conclusion is just, she ought to sacrifice every other consideration to
render herself agreeable to him: and let
this brutal desire of self-preservation be the grand spring of all her actions,
when it is proved to be the iron bed of fate, to fit which, her character
should be stretched or contracted, regardless of all moral or physical
distinctions. But if, as I think may be demonstrated,
the purposes of even this life, viewing the whole, are subverted by practical
rules built upon this ignoble base, I may be allowed to doubt whether woman was
created for man: and though the cry of
irreligion, or even atheism be raised against me, I will simply declare, that
were an angel from heaven to tell me that Moses's
beautiful, poetical cosmogony, and the account of the fall of man, were
literally true, I could not believe what my reason told me was derogatory to
the character of the Supreme Being: and,
having no fear of the devil before mine eyes, I venture to call this a
suggestion of reason, instead of resting my weakness on the broad shoulders of
the first seducer of my frail sex.
"It being once demonstrated," continues Rousseau, "that man
and woman are not, nor ought to be, constituted alike in temperament and
character, it follows of course, that they should not be educated in the same
manner. In pursuing the directions of
nature, they ought indeed to act in concert, but they should not be engaged in
the same employments: the end of their
pursuits should be the same, but the means they should take to accomplish them,
and, of consequence, their tastes and inclinations should be different." (Rousseau's
'Emilius', Volume 3 page 176.)
"Girls are from their earliest infancy fond of dress. Not content with being pretty, they are
desirous of being thought so; we see, by all their little airs, that this
thought engages their attention; and they are hardly capable of understanding
what is said to them, before they are to be governed by talking to them of what
people will think of their behaviour. The same motive, however, indiscreetly made
use of with boys, has not the same effect:
provided they are let to pursue their amusements at pleasure, they care
very little what people think of them.
Time and pains are necessary to subject boys to this motive.
"Whencesoever girls derive this first lesson
it is a very good one. As the body is born, in a manner before the soul, our
first concern should be to cultivate the former; this order is common to both sexes,
but the object of that cultivation is different. In the one sex it is the developement
of corporeal powers; in the other, that of personal charms: not that either the quality of strength or beauty
ought to be confined exclusively to one sex; but only that the order of the
cultivation of both is in that respect reversed. Women certainly require as
much strength as to enable them to move and act gracefully, and men as much
address as to qualify them to act with ease."
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"Children of both sexes have a great many amusements in common; and so
they ought; have they not also many such when they are grown up? Each sex has
also its peculiar taste to distinguish in this particular. Boys love sports of noise and activity; to
beat the drum, to whip the top, and to drag about their little carts: girls, on
the other hand, are fonder of things of show and ornament; such as mirrors,
trinkets, and dolls; the doll is the peculiar amusement of the females; from
whence we see their taste plainly adapted to their destination. The physical part of the art of pleasing lies
in dress; and this is all which children are capacitated to cultivate of that
art."
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"Here then we see a primary propensity firmly established, which you
need only to pursue and regulate. The
little creature will doubtless be very desirous to know how to dress up her
doll, to make its sleeve knots, its flounces, its head dress, etc., she is obliged
to have so much recourse to the people about her, for their assistance in these
articles, that it would be much more agreeable to her to owe them all to her
own industry. Hence we have a good reason
for the first lessons which are usually taught these young females: in which we do not appear to be setting them
a task, but obliging them, by instructing them in what is immediately useful to
themselves. And, in fact, almost all of
them learn with reluctance to read and write; but very readily apply themselves
to the use of their needles. They
imagine themselves already grown up, and think with pleasure that such
qualifications will enable them to decorate themselves."
This is certainly only an education of the body; but Rousseau is not the
only man who has indirectly said that merely the person of a young woman,
without any mind, unless animal spirits come under that description, is very
pleasing. To render it weak, and what some
may call beautiful, the understanding is neglected, and girls forced to sit
still, play with dolls, and listen to foolish conversations; the effect of
habit is insisted upon as an undoubted indication of nature. I know it was Rousseau's opinion that the first
years of youth should be employed to form the body, though in educating Emilius he deviates from this plan; yet the difference between
strengthening the body, on which strength of mind in a great measure depends,
and only giving it an easy motion, is very wide.
Rousseau's observations, it is proper to remark, were made in a country
where the art of pleasing was refined only to extract the grossness of
vice. He did not go back to nature, or
his ruling appetite disturbed the operations of reason, else he would not have drawn
these crude inferences.
In France, boys and girls, particularly the latter, are only educated to
please, to manage their persons, and regulate their exterior behaviour; and their minds are corrupted at a very early age,
by the worldly and pious cautions they receive, to guard them against
immodesty. I speak of past times. The very confessions which mere children are
obliged to make, and the questions asked by the holy men I assert these facts
on good authority, were sufficient to impress a sexual character; and the
education of society was a school of coquetry and art. At the age of ten or eleven; nay, often much
sooner, girls began to coquet, and talked, unreproved,
of establishing themselves in the world by marriage.
In short, they were made women, almost from their very birth, and compliments
were listened to instead of instruction.
These, weakening the mind, Nature was supposed to have acted like a step-mother,
when she formed this after-thought of creation.
Not allowing them understanding, however, it was but consistent to subject
them to authority, independent of reason; and to prepare them for this
subjection, he gives the following advice:
"Girls ought to be active and diligent; nor is that all; they should
also be early subjected to restraint.
This misfortune, if it really be one, is inseparable from their sex; nor
do they ever throw it off but to suffer more cruel evils. They must be subject, all their lives, to the
most constant and severe restraint, which is that of decorum: it is, therefore, necessary to accustom them early
to such confinement, that it may not afterward cost them too dear; and to the
suppression of their caprices, that they may the more readily submit to the
will of others. If, indeed, they are fond
of being always at work, they should be sometimes compelled to lay it
aside. Dissipation, levity, and
inconstancy, are faults that readily spring up from their first propensities,
when corrupted or perverted by too much indulgence. To prevent this abuse, we should learn them,
above all things, to lay a due restraint on themselves. The life of a modest woman is reduced, by our
absurd institutions, to a perpetual conflict with herself: not but it is just that this sex should
partake of the sufferings which arise from those evils it hath caused us."
And why is the life of a modest woman a perpetual conflict? I should answer, that this very system of
education makes it so. Modesty, temperance, and self-denial, are the sober
offspring of reason; but when sensibility is nurtured at the expense of the understanding,
such weak beings must be restrained by arbitrary means, and be subjected to
continual conflicts; but give their activity of mind a wider range, and nobler
passions and motives will govern their appetites and sentiments.
"The common attachment and regard of a mother, nay, mere habit, will
make her beloved by her children, if she does nothing to incur their hate. Even the restraint she lays them under, if
well directed, will increase their affection, instead of lessening it; because
a state of dependence being natural to the sex, they perceive themselves formed
for obedience."
This is begging the question; for servitude not only debases the individual,
but its effects seem to be transmitted to posterity. Considering the length of
time that women have been dependent, is it surprising that some of them hug
their chains, and fawn like the spaniel? "These dogs," observes a
naturalist, "at first kept their ears erect; but custom has superseded
nature, and a token of fear is become a beauty."
"For the same reason," adds Rousseau, "women have or ought
to have, but little liberty; they are apt to indulge themselves excessively in
what is allowed them. Addicted in every
thing to extremes, they are even more transported at their diversions than
boys."
The answer to this is very simple.
Slaves and mobs have always indulged themselves in the same excesses,
when once they broke loose from authority.
The bent bow recoils with violence, when the hand is suddenly relaxed
that forcibly held it: and sensibility, the
plaything of outward circumstances, must be subjected to authority, or
moderated by reason.
"There results," he continues, "from this habitual
restraint, a tractableness which the women have
occasion for during their whole lives, as they constantly remain either under
subjection to the men, or to the opinions of mankind; and are never permitted
to set themselves above those opinions.
The first and most important qualification in a woman is good-nature or
sweetness of temper; formed to obey a being so imperfect as man, often full of
vices, and always full of faults, she ought to learn betimes even to suffer
injustice, and to bear the insults of a husband without complaint; it is not
for his sake, but her own, that she should be of a mild disposition. The perverseness and ill-nature of the women
only serve to aggravate their own misfortunes, and the misconduct of their husbands;
they might plainly perceive that such are not the arms by which they gain the
superiority."
Formed to live with such an imperfect being as man, they ought to learn
from the exercise of their faculties the necessity of forbearance; but all the
sacred rights of humanity are violated by insisting on blind obedience; or, the
most sacred rights belong ONLY to man.
The being who patiently endures injustice, and silently bears insults, will
soon become unjust, or unable to discern right from wrong. Besides, I deny the fact, this is not the
true way to form or meliorate the temper; for, as a sex, men have better
tempers than women, because they are occupied by pursuits that interest the head
as well as the heart; and the steadiness of the head gives a healthy
temperature to the heart. People of
sensibility have seldom good tempers.
The formation of the temper is the cool work of reason, when, as life
advances, she mixes with happy art, jarring elements. I never knew a weak or ignorant person who
had a good temper, though that constitutional good humour,
and that docility, which fear stamps on the behaviour,
often obtains the name. I say behaviour, for genuine meekness never reached the heart or
mind, unless as the effect of reflection; and, that simple restraint produces a
number of peccant humours
in domestic life, many sensible men will allow, who find some of these gentle irritable
creatures, very troublesome companions.
"Each sex," he further argues, "should preserve its peculiar
tone and manner: a meek husband may make
a wife impertinent; but mildness of disposition on the woman's side will always
bring a man back to reason, at least if he be not absolutely a brute, and will sooner
or later triumph over him." True,
the mildness of reason; but abject fear always inspires contempt; and tears are
only eloquent when they flow down fair cheeks.
Of what materials can that heart be composed, which can melt when insulted,
and instead of revolting at injustice, kiss the rod? Is it unfair to infer, that her virtue is
built on narrow views and selfishness, who can caress a man, with true feminine
softness, the very moment when he treats her tyrannically? Nature never dictated such insincerity; and
though prudence of this sort be termed a virtue, morality becomes vague when
any part is supposed to rest on falsehood.
These are mere expedients, and expedients are only useful for the
moment.
Let the husband beware of trusting too implicitly to this servile obedience;
for if his wife can with winning sweetness caress him when angry, and when she
ought to be angry, unless contempt had stifled a natural effervescence, she may
do the same after parting with a lover.
These are all preparations for adultery; or, should the fear of the world,
or of hell, restrain her desire of pleasing other men, when she can no longer
please her husband, what substitute can be found by a being who was only formed
by nature and art to please man? what
can make her amends for this privation, or where is she to seek for a fresh
employment? Where find sufficient
strength of mind to determine to begin the search, when her habits are fixed,
and vanity has long ruled her chaotic mind?
But this partial moralist recommends cunning systematically and plausibly.
"Daughters should be always submissive; their mothers, however, should
not be inexorable. To make a young
person tractable, she ought not to be made unhappy; to make her modest she
ought not to be rendered stupid. On the
contrary, I should not be displeased at her being permitted to use some art,
not to elude punishment in case of disobedience, but to exempt herself from the
necessity of obeying. It is not
necessary to make her dependence burdensome, but only to let her feel it. Subtilty is a
talent natural to the sex; and as I am persuaded, all our natural inclinations
are right and good in themselves, I am of opinion this should be cultivated as
well as the others: it is requisite for
us only to prevent its abuse."
"Whatever is, is right," he then proceeds triumphantly to infer. Granted;
yet, perhaps, no aphorism ever contained a more paradoxical assertion. It is a solemn truth with respect to God. He,
reverentially I speak, sees the whole at once, and saw its just proportions in
the womb of time; but man, who can only inspect disjointed parts, finds many
things wrong; and it is a part of the system, and therefore right, that he
should endeavour to alter what appears to him to be
so, even while he bows to the wisdom of his Creator, and respects the darkness
he labours to disperse.
The inference that follows is just, supposing the principle to be sound:
"The superiority of address, peculiar to the female sex, is a very
equitable indemnification for their inferiority in point of strength: without
this, woman would not be the companion of man; but his slave: it is by her superiour
art and ingenuity that she preserves her equality, and governs him while she
affects to obey. Woman has every thing against her, as well our faults as her
own timidity and weakness: she has nothing in her favour,
but her subtilty and her beauty. Is it not very reasonable, therefore, she should
cultivate both?" Greatness of mind
can never dwell with cunning or address; for I shall not boggle about words, when
their direct signification is insincerity and falsehood; but content myself
with observing, that if any class of mankind be so created that it must
necessarily be educated by rules, not strictly deducible from truth, virtue is
an affair of convention. How could Rousseau
dare to assert, after giving this advice, that in the grand end of existence,
the object of both sexes should be the same, when he well knew, that the mind
formed by its pursuits, is expanded by great views swallowing up little ones,
or that it becomes itself little?
Men have superiour strength of body; but were it
not for mistaken notions of beauty, women would acquire sufficient to enable
them to earn their own subsistence, the true definition of independence; and to
bear those bodily inconveniences and exertions that are requisite to strengthen
the mind.
Let us then, by being allowed to take the same exercise as boys, not only
during infancy, but youth, arrive at perfection of body, that we may know how
far the natural superiority of man extends. For what reason or virtue can be
expected from a creature when the seed-time of life is neglected? None--did not
the winds of heaven casually scatter many useful seeds in the fallow ground.
"Beauty cannot be acquired by dress, and coquetry is an art not so early
and speedily attained. While girls are
yet young, however, they are in a capacity to study agreeable gesture, a
pleasing modulation of voice, an easy carriage and behaviour;
as well as to take the advantage of gracefully adapting their looks and
attitudes to time, place, and occasion.
Their application, therefore, should not be solely confined to the arts
of industry and the needle, when they come to display other talents, whose
utility is already apparent." "For my part I would have a young
Englishwoman cultivate her agreeable talents, in order to please her future
husband, with as much care and assiduity as a young Circassian
cultivates her's, to fit her for the Haram of an Eastern bashaw."
To render women completely insignificant, he adds,--"The tongues of women
are very voluble; they speak earlier, more readily, and more agreeably than the
men; they are accused also of speaking much more: but so it ought to be, and I should be very
ready to convert this reproach into a compliment; their lips and eyes have the
same activity, and for the same reason.
A man speaks of what he knows, a woman of what pleases her; the one
requires knowledge, the other taste; the principal object of a man's discourse
should be what is useful, that of a woman's what is agreeable. There ought to be nothing in common between
their different conversation but truth."
"We ought not, therefore, to restrain the prattle of girls, in the same
manner as we should that of boys, with that severe question, 'To what purpose
are you talking?' but by another, which is no less difficult to answer, 'How
will your discourse be received?' In infancy,
while they are as yet incapable to discern good from evil, they ought to
observe it as a law, never to say any thing disagreeable to those whom they are
speaking to: what will render the
practice of this rule also the more difficult, is, that it must ever be
subordinate to the former, of never speaking falsely or telling an
untruth." To govern the tongue in
this manner must require great address indeed; and it is too much practised both by men and women. Out of the abundance of the heart how few
speak! So few, that I, who love simplicity, would gladly give up politeness for
a quarter of the virtue that has been sacrificed to an equivocal quality,
which, at best, should only be the polish of virtue.
But to complete the sketch. "It
is easy to be conceived, that if male children be not in a capacity to form any
true notions of religion, those ideas must be greatly above the conception of
the females: it is for this very reason,
I would begin to speak to them the earlier on this subject; for if we were to
wait till they were in a capacity to discuss methodically such profound
questions, we should run a risk of never speaking to them on this subject as long
as they lived. Reason in women is a
practical reason, capacitating them artfully to discover the means of attaining
a known end, but which would never enable them to discover that end itself. The social relations of the sexes are indeed
truly admirable: from their union there
results a moral person, of which woman may be termed the eyes, and man the
hand, with this dependence on each other, that it is from the man that the
woman is to learn what she is to see, and it is of the woman that man is to learn
what he ought to do. If woman could
recur to the first principles of things as well as man, and man was capacitated
to enter into their minutae as well as woman, always
independent of each other, they would live in perpetual discord, and their
union could not subsist. But in the
present harmony which naturally subsists between them, their different
faculties tend to one common end; it is difficult to say which of them conduces
the most to it: each follows the impulse of the other; each is obedient, and
both are masters."
"As the conduct of a woman is subservient to the public opinion, her
faith in matters of religion, should for that very reason, be subject to
authority. 'Every daughter ought to be
of the same religion as her mother, and every wife to be of the same religion as
her husband: for, though such religion
should be false, that docility which induces the mother and daughter to submit
to the order of nature, takes away, in the sight of God, the criminality of
their error'. As they are not in a capacity to judge for themselves, they ought
to abide by the decision of their fathers and husbands as confidently as by
that of the church."
"As authority ought to regulate the religion of the women, it is not
so needful to explain to them the reasons for their belief, as to lay down
precisely the tenets they are to believe:
for the creed, which presents only obscure ideas to the mind, is the
source of fanaticism; and that which presents absurdities, leads to infidelity."
Absolute, uncontroverted authority, it seems, must subsist somewhere: but is not this a direct and exclusive
appropriation of reason? The RIGHTS of
humanity have been thus confined to the male line from Adam downwards. Rousseau would carry his male aristocracy
still further, for he insinuates, that he should not blame those, who contend
for leaving woman in a state of the most profound ignorance, if it were not
necessary, in order to preserve her chastity, and justify the man's choice in
the eyes of the world, to give her a little knowledge of men, and the customs produced
by human passions; else she might propagate at home without being rendered less
voluptuous and innocent by the exercise of her understanding: excepting, indeed, during the first year of marriage,
when she might employ it to dress, like Sophia.
"Her dress is extremely modest in appearance, and yet very
coquettish in fact: she does not make a
display of her charms, she conceals them; but, in concealing them, she knows
how to affect your imagination. Every
one who sees her, will say, There is a modest and discreet girl; but while you
are near her, your eyes and affections wander all over her person, so that you
cannot withdraw them; and you would conclude that every part of her dress,
simple as it seems, was only put in its proper order to be taken to pieces by
the imagination." Is this
modesty? Is this a preparation for immortality? Again.
What opinion are we to form of a system of education, when the author
says of his heroine, "that with her, doing things well is but a SECONDARY
concern; her principal concern is to do them NEATLY."
Secondary, in fact, are all her virtues and qualities, for, respecting
religion, he makes her parents thus address her, accustomed to
submission--"Your husband will instruct you in good time."
After thus cramping a woman's mind, if, in order to keep it fair, he has
not made it quite a blank, he advises her to reflect, that a reflecting man may
not yawn in her company, when he is tired of caressing her. What has she to reflect about, who must obey?
And would it not be a refinement on cruelty only to open her mind to make the
darkness and misery of her fate VISIBLE?
Yet these are his sensible remarks; how consistent with what I have
already been obliged to quote, to give a fair view of the subject, the reader may
determine.
"They who pass their whole lives in working for their daily bread, have
no ideas beyond their business or their interest, and all their understanding
seems to lie in their fingers' ends.
This ignorance is neither prejudicial to their integrity nor their morals;
it is often of service to them.
Sometimes, by means of reflection, we are led to compound with our duty,
and we conclude, by substituting a jargon of words, in the room of things. Our own conscience is the most enlightened
philosopher. There is no need of being
acquainted with Tully's offices, to make a man of probity: and perhaps the most
virtuous woman in the world is the least acquainted with the definition of
virtue. But it is no less true, than an
improved understanding only can render society agreeable; and it is a
melancholy thing for a father of a family, who is fond of home, to be obliged
to be always wrapped up in himself, and to have nobody about him to whom he can
impart his sentiments.
"Besides, how should a woman void of reflection be capable of educating
her children? How should she discern
what is proper for them? How should she
incline them to those virtues she is unacquainted with, or to that merit of
which she has no idea? She can only
sooth or chide them; render them insolent or timid; she will make them formal
coxcombs, or ignorant blockheads; but will never make them sensible or
amiable." How indeed should she,
when her husband is not always at hand to lend her his reason –when they both
together make but one moral being? A
blind will, "eyes without hands," would go a very little way; and
perchance his abstract reason, that should concentrate the scattered beams of
her practical reason, may be employed in judging of the flavour
of wine, discanting on the sauces most proper for
turtle; or, more profoundly intent at a card-table, he may be generalizing his
ideas as he bets away his fortune, leaving all the minutiae of education to his
helpmate or chance.
But, granting that woman ought to be beautiful, innocent, and silly, to
render her a more alluring and indulgent companion—what is her understanding
sacrificed for? And why is all this preparation
necessary only, according to Rousseau's own account, to make her the mistress
of her husband, a very short time? For
no man ever insisted more on the transient nature of love. Thus speaks the philosopher. "Sensual pleasures are transient. The habitual state of the affections always
loses by their gratification. The
imagination, which decks the object of our desires, is lost in fruition. Excepting the Supreme Being, who is self-existent,
there is nothing beautiful but what is ideal."
But he returns to his unintelligible paradoxes again, when he thus addresses
Sophia. "Emilius,
in becoming your husband, is become your master, and claims your
obedience. Such is the order of nature. When a man is married, however, to such a
wife as Sophia, it is proper he should be directed by her: this is also agreeable to the order of
nature: it is, therefore, to give you as
much authority over his heart as his sex gives him over your person, that I
have made you the arbiter of his pleasures.
It may cost you, perhaps, some disagreeable self-denial; but you will be
certain of maintaining your empire over him, if you can preserve it over
yourself; what I have already observed,
also shows me, that this difficult attempt does not surpass your courage.
"Would you have your husband constantly at your feet? keep him at some
distance from your person. You will long
maintain the authority of love, if you know but how to render your favours rare and valuable.
It is thus you may employ even the arts of coquetry in the service of
virtue, and those of love in that of reason."
I shall close my extracts with a just description of a comfortable couple. "And yet you must not imagine, that even
such management will always suffice.
Whatever precaution be taken, enjoyment will, by degrees, take off the
edge of passion. But when love hath lasted
as long as possible, a pleasing habitude supplies its place, and the attachment
of a mutual confidence succeeds to the transports of passion. Children often form a more agreeable and permanent
connexion between married people than even love
itself. When you cease to be the mistress of Emilius,
you will continue to be his wife and friend; you will be the mother of his
children." (Rousseau's Emilius.)
Children, he truly observes, form a much more permanent connexion
between married people than love. Beauty
he declares will not be valued, or even seen, after a couple have lived six
months together; artificial graces and coquetry will likewise pall on the senses: why then does he say, that a girl should be
educated for her husband with the same care as for an eastern haram?
I now appeal from the reveries of fancy and refined licentiousness to the
good sense of mankind, whether, if the object of education be to prepare women
to become chaste wives and sensible mothers, the method so plausibly
recommended in the foregoing sketch, be the one best calculated to produce
those ends? Will it be allowed that the
surest way to make a wife chaste, is to teach her to practice the wanton arts
of a mistress, termed virtuous coquetry by the sensualist who can no longer
relish the artless charms of sincerity, or taste the pleasure arising from a
tender intimacy, when confidence is unchecked by suspicion, and rendered
interesting by sense?
The man who can be contented to live with a pretty useful companion without
a mind, has lost in voluptuous gratifications a taste for more refined
enjoyments; he has never felt the calm satisfaction that refreshes the parched
heart, like the silent dew of heaven—of being beloved by one who could
understand him. In the society of his
wife he is still alone, unless when the man is sunk in the brute. "The charm of life," says a grave
philosophical reasoner, is "sympathy; nothing
pleases us more than to observe in other men a fellow-feeling with all the
emotions of our own breast."
But, according to the tenor of reasoning by which women are kept from the
tree of knowledge, the important years of youth, the usefulness of age, and the
rational hopes of futurity, are all to be sacrificed, to render woman an object
of desire for a short time. Besides, how
could Rousseau expect them to be virtuous and constant when reason is neither
allowed to be the foundation of their virtue, nor truth the object of their
inquiries?
But all Rousseau's errors in reasoning arose from sensibility, and sensibility
to their charms women are very ready to forgive! When he should have reasoned he became
impassioned, and reflection inflamed his imagination, instead of enlightening
his understanding. Even his virtues also
led him farther astray; for, born with a warm constitution and lively fancy,
nature carried him toward the other sex with such eager fondness, that he soon
became lascivious. Had he given way to
these desires, the fire would have extinguished itself in a natural manner, but
virtue, and a romantic kind of delicacy, made him practise
self-denial; yet, when fear, delicacy, or virtue restrained him, he debauched
his imagination; and reflecting on the sensations to which fancy gave force, he
traced them in the most glowing colours, and sunk
them deep into his soul.
He then sought for solitude, not to sleep with the man of nature; or calmly
investigate the causes of things under the shade where Sir Isaac Newton
indulged contemplation, but merely to indulge his feelings. And so warmly has he painted what he forcibly
felt, that, interesting the heart and inflaming the imagination of his readers;
in proportion to the strength of their fancy, they imagine that their
understanding is convinced, when they only sympathize with a poetic writer, who
skilfully exhibits the objects of sense, most
voluptuously shadowed, or gracefully veiled; and thus making us feel, whilst
dreaming that we reason, erroneous conclusions are left in the mind.
Why was Rousseau's life divided between ecstasy and misery? Can any other answer be given than this, that
the effervescence of his imagination produced both; but, had his fancy been
allowed to cool, it is possible that he might have acquired more strength of
mind. Still, if the purpose of life be to educate the intellectual part of man,
all with respect to him was right; yet, had not death led to a nobler scene of
action, it is probable that he would have enjoyed more equal happiness on
earth, and have felt the calm sensations of the man of nature, instead of being
prepared for another stage of existence by nourishing the passions which
agitate the civilized man.
But peace to his manes! I war not
with his ashes, but his opinions. I war
only with the sensibility that led him to degrade woman by making her the slave
of love.
...."Curs'd vassalage,
First idoliz'd till love's hot fire be o'er,
Then slaves to those who courted us before."
Dryden.
The pernicious tendency of those books, in which the writers insidiously
degrade the sex, whilst they are prostrate before their personal charms, cannot
be too often or too severely exposed.
Let us, my dear contemporaries, arise above such narrow prejudices! If
wisdom is desirable on its own account, if virtue, to deserve the name, must be
founded on knowledge; let us endeavour to strengthen
our minds by reflection, till our heads become a balance for our hearts; let us
not confine all our thoughts to the petty occurrences of the day, nor our
knowledge to an acquaintance with our lovers' or husbands' hearts; but let the
practice of every duty be subordinate to the grand one of improving our minds,
and preparing our affections for a more exalted state!
Beware then, my friends, of suffering the heart to be moved by every
trivial incident: the reed is shaken by
a breeze, and annually dies, but the oak stands firm, and for ages braves the storm.
Were we, indeed, only created to flutter our hour out and die—why let us
then indulge sensibility, and laugh at the severity of reason. Yet, alas! even then we should want strength
of body and mind, and life would be lost in feverish pleasures or wearisome languor.
But the system of education, which I earnestly wish to see exploded, seems
to presuppose, what ought never to be taken for granted, that virtue shields us
from the casualties of life; and that fortune, slipping off her bandage, will
smile on a well-educated female, and bring in her hand an Emilius
or a Telemachus.
Whilst, on the contrary, the reward which virtue promises to her
votaries is confined, it is clear, to their own bosoms; and often must they
contend with the most vexatious worldly cares, and bear with the vices and humours of relations for whom they can never feel a
friendship.
There have been many women in the world who, instead of being supported by
the reason and virtue of their fathers and brothers, have strengthened their
own minds by struggling with their vices and follies; yet have never met with a
hero, in the shape of a husband; who, paying the debt that mankind owed them,
might chance to bring back their reason to its natural dependent state, and restore
the usurped prerogative, of rising above opinion, to man.
SECTION 5.2.
Dr. Fordyce's sermons have long made a part of a young woman's library;
nay, girls at school are allowed to read them; but I should instantly dismiss
them from my pupil's, if I wished to strengthen her understanding, by leading
her to form sound principles on a broad basis; or, were I only anxious to
cultivate her taste; though they must be allowed to contain many sensible observations.
Dr. Fordyce may have had a very laudable end in view; but these discourses
are written in such an affected style, that were it only on that account, and
had I nothing to object against his MELLIFLUOUS precepts, I should not allow
girls to peruse them, unless I designed to hunt every spark of nature out of their
composition, melting every human quality into female weakness and artificial
grace. I say artificial, for true grace
arises from some kind of independence of mind.
Children, careless of pleasing, and only anxious to amuse themselves, are
often very graceful; and the nobility who have mostly lived with inferiors, and
always had the command of money, acquire a graceful ease of deportment, which
should rather be termed habitual grace of body, than that superiour
gracefulness which is truly the expression of the mind. This mental grace, not noticed by vulgar
eyes, often flashes across a rough countenance, and irradiating every feature,
shows simplicity and independence of mind.
It is then we read characters of immortality in the eye, and see the
soul in every gesture, though when at rest, neither the face nor limbs may have
much beauty to recommend them; or the behaviour, any
thing peculiar to attract universal attention.
The mass of mankind, however, look for more TANGIBLE beauty; yet simplicity
is, in general, admired, when people do not consider what they admire; and can
there be simplicity without sincerity? but, to have done with remarks that are
in some measure desultory, though naturally excited by the subject.
In declamatory periods Dr. Fordyce spins out Rousseau's eloquence; and in
most sentimental rant, details his opinions respecting the female character,
and the behaviour which woman ought to assume to render
her lovely.
He shall speak for himself, for thus he makes nature address man. "Behold
these smiling innocents, whom I have graced with my fairest gifts, and
committed to your protection; behold them with love and respect; treat them
with tenderness and honour. They are timid and want to be defended. They are frail; O do not take advantage of their
weakness! Let their fears and blushes
endear them. Let their confidence in you
never be abused. But is it possible,
that any of you can be such barbarians, so supremely wicked, as to abuse it? Can you find in your hearts* to despoil the
gentle, trusting creatures of their treasure, or do any thing to strip them of
their native robe of virtue? Curst be
the impious hand that would dare to violate the unblemished form of
Chastity! Thou wretch! Thou ruffian!
forbear; nor venture to provoke heaven's fiercest vengeance." I know not any comment that can be made
seriously on this curious passage, and I could produce many similar ones; and some,
so very sentimental, that I have heard rational men use the word indecent, when
they mentioned them with disgust.
Throughout there is a display of cold, artificial feelings, and that parade
of sensibility which boys and girls should be taught to despise as the sure
mark of a little vain mind. Florid
appeals are made to heaven, and to the BEAUTEOUS INNOCENTS, the fairest images of
heaven here below, whilst sober sense is left far behind. This is not the language of the heart, nor
will it ever reach it, though the ear may be tickled.
I shall be told, perhaps, that the public have been pleased with these
volumes. True--and Hervey's Meditations
are still read, though he equally sinned against sense and taste.
I particularly object to the lover-like phrases of pumped up passion, which
are every where interspersed. If women
be ever allowed to walk without leading-strings, why must they be cajoled into
virtue by artful flattery and sexual compliments? Speak to them the language of truth and
soberness, and away with the lullaby strains of condescending endearment! Let them be taught to respect themselves as
rational creatures, and not led to have a passion for their own insipid
persons. It moves my gall to hear a preacher
descanting on dress and needle-work; and still more, to hear him address the
'British fair, the fairest of the fair', as if they had only feelings.
Even recommending piety he uses the following argument. "Never, perhaps, does a fine woman
strike more deeply, than when, composed into pious recollection, and possessed
with the noblest considerations, she assumes, without knowing it, superiour dignity and new graces; so that the beauties of
holiness seem to radiate about her, and the by-standers are almost induced to
fancy her already worshipping amongst her kindred angels!" Why are women to be thus bred up with a
desire of conquest? the very epithet, used in this sense, gives me a sickly
qualm! Does religion and virtue offer no
stronger motives, no brighter reward?
Must they always be debased by being made to consider the sex of their
companions? Must they be taught always to be pleasing? And when leveling their small artillery at
the heart of man, is it necessary to tell them that a little sense is
sufficient to render their attention INCREDIBLY SOOTHING? "As a small degree of knowledge
entertains in a woman, so from a woman, though for a different reason, a small expression
of kindness delights, particularly if she have beauty!" I should have
supposed for the same reason.
Why are girls to be told that they resemble angels; but to sink them below
women? Or, that a gentle, innocent
female is an object that comes nearer to the idea which we have formed of
angels than any other. Yet they are
told, at the same time, that they are only like angels when they are young and
beautiful; consequently, it is their persons, not their virtues, that procure
them this homage.
Idle empty words! what can such
delusive flattery lead to, but vanity and folly? The lover, it is true, has a poetic licence to exalt his mistress; his reason is the bubble of
his passion, and he does not utter a falsehood when he borrows the language of adoration. His imagination may raise the idol of his
heart, unblamed, above humanity; and happy would it
be for women, if they were only flattered by the men who loved them; I mean,
who love the individual, not the sex; but should a grave preacher interlard his
discourses with such fooleries?
In sermons or novels, however, voluptuousness is always true to its text. Men are allowed by moralists to cultivate, as
nature directs, different qualities, and assume the different characters, that
the same passions, modified almost to infinity, give to each individual. A virtuous man may have a choleric or a
sanguine constitution, be gay or grave, unreproved;
be firm till be is almost over-bearing, or, weakly submissive, have no will or
opinion of his own; but all women are to be levelled,
by meekness and docility, into one character of yielding softness and gentle compliance.
I will use the preacher's own words.
"Let it be observed, that in your sex manly exercises are never
graceful; that in them a tone and figure, as well as an air and deportment, of
the masculine kind, are always forbidding; and that men of sensibility desire
in every woman soft features, and a flowing voice, a form not robust, and demeanour delicate and gentle."
Is not the following portrait--the portrait of a house slave? "I am astonished at the folly of many
women, who are still reproaching their husbands for leaving them alone, for
preferring this or that company to theirs, for treating them with this and the
other mark of disregard or indifference; when, to speak the truth, they have themselves
in a great measure to blame. Not that I
would justify the men in any thing wrong on their part. But had you behaved to them with more
RESPECTFUL OBSERVANCE, and a more EQUAL TENDERNESS; STUDYING THEIR HUMOURS,
OVERLOOKING THEIR MISTAKES, SUBMITTING TO THEIR OPINIONS in matters
indifferent, passing by little instances of unevenness, caprice, or passion,
giving SOFT answers to hasty words, complaining as seldom as possible, and
making it your daily care to relieve their anxieties and prevent their wishes,
to enliven the hour of dulness, and call up the ideas
of felicity: had you pursued this conduct, I doubt not but you would have maintained
and even increased their esteem, so far as to have secured every degree of
influence that could conduce to their virtue, or your mutual satisfaction; and
your house might at this
day have been the abode of domestic bliss." Such a woman ought to be an angel--or she is
an ass--for I discern not a trace of the human character, neither reason nor
passion in this domestic drudge, whose being is absorbed in that of a tyrant's.
Still Dr. Fordyce must have very little acquaintance with the human heart,
if he really supposed that such conduct would bring back wandering love,
instead of exciting contempt. No,
beauty, gentleness, etc. etc. may gain a heart; but esteem, the only lasting
affection, can alone be obtained by virtue supported by reason. It is respect for the understanding that
keeps alive tenderness for the person.
As these volumes are so frequently put into the hands of young people, I
have taken more notice of them than strictly speaking, they deserve; but as
they have contributed to vitiate the taste, and enervate the understanding of
many of my fellow-creatures, I could not pass them silently over.
SECTION 5.3.
Such paternal solicitude pervades Dr. Gregory's Legacy to his daughters,
that I enter on the task of criticism with affectionate respect; but as this
little volume has many attractions to recommend it to the notice of the most
respectable part of my sex, I cannot silently pass over arguments that so
speciously support opinions which, I think, have had the most baneful effect on
the morals and manners of the female world.
His easy familiar style is particularly suited to the tenor of his advice,
and the melancholy tenderness which his respect for the memory of a beloved
wife diffuses through the whole work, renders it very interesting; yet there is
a degree of concise elegance conspicuous in many passages, that disturbs this
sympathy; and we pop on the author, when we only expected to meet the--father.
Besides, having two objects in view, he seldom adhered steadily to either;
for, wishing to make his daughters amiable, and fearing lest unhappiness should
only be the consequence, of instilling sentiments, that might draw them out of
the track of common life, without enabling them to act with consonant
independence and dignity, he checks the natural flow of his thoughts, and
neither advises one thing nor the other.
In the preface he tells them a mournful truth, "that they will hear,
at least once in their lives, the genuine sentiments of a man, who has no
interest in deceiving them."
Hapless woman! what can be expected from thee, when the beings on whom thou
art said naturally to depend for reason and support, have all an interest in
deceiving thee! This is the root of the
evil that has shed a corroding mildew on all thy virtues; and blighting in the
bud thy opening faculties, has rendered thee the weak thing thou art! It is this separate interest-- this insidious
state of warfare, that undermines morality, and divides mankind!
If love has made some women wretched--how many more has the cold unmeaning
intercourse of gallantry rendered vain and useless! Yet this heartless
attention to the sex is reckoned so manly, so polite, that till society is very
differently organized, I fear, this vestige of gothic manners will not be done
away by a more reasonable and affectionate mode of conduct. Besides, to strip it of its imaginary
dignity, I must observe, that in the most civilized European states, this
lip-service prevails in a very great degree, accompanied with extreme
dissoluteness of morals. In Portugal,
the country that I particularly allude to, it takes place of the most serious
moral obligations; for a man is seldom assassinated when in the company of a
woman. The savage hand of rapine is
unnerved by this chivalrous spirit; and, if the stroke of vengeance cannot be
stayed--the lady is entreated to pardon the rudeness and depart in peace,
though sprinkled, perhaps, with her husband's or brother's blood.
I shall pass over his strictures on religion, because I mean to discuss
that subject in a separate chapter.
The remarks relative to behaviour, though many of
them very sensible, I entirely disapprove of, because it appears to me to be beginning,
as it were at the wrong end. A
cultivated understanding, and an affectionate heart, will never want starched rules
of decorum, something more substantial than seemliness will be the result; and,
without understanding, the behaviour here recommended,
would be rank affectation. Decorum,
indeed, is the one thing needful!
decorum is to supplant nature, and banish all simplicity and variety of
character out of the female world. Yet what
good end can all this superficial counsel produce? It is, however, much easier to point out this
or that mode of behaviour, than to set the reason to
work; but, when the mind has been stored with useful knowledge, and
strengthened by being employed, the regulation of the behaviour
may safely be left to its guidance.
Why, for instance, should the following caution be given, when art of every
kind must contaminate the mind; and why entangle the grand motives of action,
which reason and religion equally combine to enforce, with pitiful worldly
shifts and slight of hand tricks to gain the applause of gaping tasteless
fools? "Be even cautious in displaying
your good sense.* It will be thought you
assume a superiority over the rest of the company-- But if you happen to have
any learning keep it a profound secret, especially from the men, who generally
look with a jealous and malignant eye on a woman of great parts, and a
cultivated understanding." If men
of real merit, as he afterwards observes, are superior to this meanness, where
is the necessity that the behaviour of the whole sex
should be modulated to please fools, or men, who having little claim to respect
as individuals, choose to keep close in their phalanx. Men, indeed, who insist
on their common superiority, having only this sexual superiority, are certainly
very excusable.
There would be no end to rules for behaviour, if
it be proper always to adopt the tone of the company; for thus, for ever
varying the key, a FLAT would often pass for a NATURAL note.
Surely it would have been wiser to have advised women to improve themselves
till they rose above the fumes of vanity; and then to let the public opinion
come round--for where are rules of accommodation to stop? The narrow path of truth and virtue inclines
neither to the right nor left, it is a straight-forward business, and they who
are earnestly pursuing their road, may bound over many decorous prejudices,
without leaving modesty behind. Make the heart clean, and give the head
employment, and I will venture to predict that there will be nothing offensive
in the behaviour.
The air of fashion, which many young people are so eager to attain, always
strikes me like the studied attitudes of some modern prints, copied with
tasteless servility after the antiques; the soul is left out, and none of the
parts are tied together by what may properly be termed character. This varnish of fashion, which seldom sticks
very close to sense, may dazzle the weak; but leave nature to itself, and it
will seldom disgust the wise. Besides, when
a woman has sufficient sense not to pretend to any thing which she does not
understand in some degree, there is no need of determining to hide her talents
under a bushel. Let things take their
natural course, and all will be well.
It is this system of dissimulation, throughout the volume, that I despise. Women are always to SEEM to be this and
that--yet virtue might apostrophize them, in the words of Hamlet--Seems! I know not seems!--Have that within that passeth show!--
Still the same tone occurs; for in another place, after recommending,
(without sufficiently discriminating) delicacy, he adds, "The men will
complain of your reserve. They will
assure you that a franker behaviour would make you
more amiable. But, trust me, they are
not sincere when they tell you so. I
acknowledge that on some occasions it might render you more agreeable as
companions, but it would make you less amiable as women: an important distinction, which many of your
sex are not aware of."
This desire of being always women, is the very consciousness that degrades
the sex. Excepting with a lover, I must
repeat with emphasis, a former observation--it would be well if they were only agreeable
or rational companions. But in this
respect his advice is even inconsistent with a passage which I mean to quote
with the most marked approbation.
"The sentiment, that a woman may allow all innocent freedoms, provided
her virtue is secure, is both grossly indelicate and dangerous, and has proved
fatal to many of your sex." With
this opinion I perfectly coincide. A
man, or a woman, of any feeling must always wish to convince a beloved object
that it is the caresses of the individual, not the sex, that is received and returned
with pleasure; and, that the heart, rather than the senses, is moved. Without this natural delicacy, love becomes a
selfish personal gratification that soon degrades the character. I carry this
sentiment still further. Affection, when
love is out of the question, authorises many personal
endearments, that naturally flowing from an innocent heart give life to the behaviour; but the personal intercourse of appetite,
gallantry, or vanity, is despicable.
When a man squeezes the hand of a pretty woman, handing her to a
carriage, whom he has never seen before, she will consider such an impertinent
freedom in the light of an insult, if she have any true delicacy, instead of
being flattered by this unmeaning homage to beauty. These are the privileges of friendship, or
the momentary homage which the heart pays to virtue, when it flashes suddenly
on the notice--mere animal spirits have no claim to the kindnesses of
affection.
Wishing to feed the affections with what is now the food of vanity, I would
fain persuade my sex to act from simpler principles. Let them merit love, and they will obtain it,
though they may never be told that:
"The power of a fine woman over the hearts of men, of men of the
finest parts, is even beyond what she conceives."
I have already noticed the narrow cautions with respect to duplicity,
female softness, delicacy of constitution; for these are the changes which he
rings round without ceasing, in a more decorous manner, it is true, than
Rousseau; but it all comes home to the same point, and whoever is at the
trouble to analyze these sentiments, will find the first principles not quite
so delicate as the superstructure.
The subject of amusements is treated in too cursory a manner; but with the
same spirit.
When I treat of friendship, love, and marriage, it will be found that we materially
differ in opinion; I shall not then forestall what I have to observe on these
important subjects; but confine my remarks to the general tenor of them, to
that cautious family prudence, to those confined views of partial unenlightened
affection, which exclude pleasure and improvement, by vainly wishing to ward
off sorrow and error--and by thus guarding the heart and mind, destroy also all
their energy. It is far better to be
often deceived than never to trust; to be disappointed in love, than never to
love; to lose a husband's fondness, than forfeit his esteem.
Happy would it be for the world, and for individuals, of course, if all
this unavailing solicitude to attain worldly happiness, on a
confined plan, were turned into an anxious desire to improve the understanding. "Wisdom is the principal thing: THEREFORE get
wisdom; and with all thy gettings get
understanding." "How long ye simple
ones, will ye love simplicity, and hate knowledge?" Saith
Wisdom to the daughters of men!
SECTION 5.4.
I do not mean to allude to all the writers who have written on the subject
of female manners--it would in fact be only beating over the old ground, for
they have, in general, written in the same strain; but attacking the boasted
prerogative of man—the prerogative that may emphatically be called the iron sceptre of tyranny, the original sin of tyrants, I declare
against all power built on prejudices, however hoary.
If the submission demanded be founded on justice--there is no appealing to
a higher power--for God is justice itself.
Let us then, as children of the same parent, if not bastardized by being
the younger born, reason together, and learn to submit to the authority of
reason when her voice is distinctly heard.
But, if it be proved that this throne of prerogative only rests on a
chaotic mass of prejudices, that have no inherent principle of order to keep
them together, or on an elephant, tortoise, or even the mighty shoulders of a
son of the earth, they may escape, who dare to brave the consequence without
any breach of duty, without sinning against the order of things.
Whilst reason raises man above the brutal herd, and death is big with
promises, they alone are subject to blind authority who have no reliance on
their own strength. "They are free
who will be free!"
The being who can govern itself, has nothing to fear in life; but if any
thing is dearer than its own respect, the price must be paid to the last
farthing. Virtue, like every thing
valuable, must be loved for herself alone; or she will not take up her abode
with us. She will not impart that peace, "which passeth
understanding," when she is merely made the stilts of reputation and respected
with pharisaical exactness, because "honesty is the best policy."
That the plan of life which enables us to carry some knowledge and virtue
into another world, is the one best calculated to ensure content in this,
cannot be denied; yet few people act according to this principle, though it be
universally allowed that it admits not of dispute. Present pleasure, or present power, carry
before it these sober convictions; and it is for the day, not for life, that man
bargains with happiness. How few! how
very few! Have sufficient foresight or resolution, to endure a small evil at
the moment, to avoid a greater hereafter.
Woman in particular, whose virtue* is built on mutual prejudices, seldom
attains to this greatness of mind; so that, becoming the slave of her own
feelings, she is easily subjugated by those of others. Thus degraded, her reason, her misty reason!
is employed rather to burnish than to snap her chains.
Indignantly have I heard women argue in the same track as men, and adopt
the sentiments that brutalize them with all the pertinacity of ignorance.
I must illustrate my assertion by a few examples. Mrs. Piozzi, who often repeated by rote, what
she did not understand, comes forward with Johnsonian periods.
"Seek not for happiness in singularity; and dread a refinement of wisdom
as a deviation into folly." Thus
she dogmatically addresses a new married man; and to elucidate this pompous
exordium, she adds, "I said that the person of your lady would not grow
more pleasing to you, but pray let her never suspect that it grows less so: that a woman will pardon an affront to her
understanding much sooner than one to her person, is well known; nor will any
of us contradict the assertion. All our
attainments, all our arts, are employed to gain and keep the heart of man; and
what mortification can exceed the disappointment, if the end be not obtained: There
is no reproof however pointed, no punishment however severe, that a woman of
spirit will not prefer to neglect; and if she can endure it without complaint,
it only proves that she means to make herself amends by the attention of others
for the slights of her husband!"
These are true masculine sentiments.
"All our ARTS are employed to gain and keep the heart of
man:"--and what is the inference?—if her person, and was there ever a
person, though formed with Medicisan symmetry, that
was not slighted? be neglected, she will make herself amends by endeavouring to please other men. Noble morality! But thus is the understanding of the whole
sex affronted, and their virtue deprived of the common basis of virtue. A woman
must know, that her person cannot be as pleasing to her husband as it was to
her lover, and if she be offended with him for being a human creature, she may
as well whine about the loss of his heart as about any other foolish
thing. And this very want of discernment
or unreasonable anger, proves that he could not change his fondness for her
person into affection for her virtues or respect for her understanding.
Whilst women avow, and act up to such opinions, their understandings, at
least, deserve the contempt and obloquy that men, WHO NEVER insult their
persons, have pointedly levelled at the female
mind. And it is the sentiments of these
polite men, who do not wish to be encumbered with mind, that vain women
thoughtlessly adopt. Yet they should
know, that insulted reason alone can spread that SACRED reserve about the
persons which renders human affections, for human affections have always some
base alloy, as permanent as is consistent with the grand end of existence—the attainment
of virtue.
The Baroness de Stael speaks the same language as the lady just cited, with
more enthusiasm. Her eulogium on
Rousseau was accidentally put into my hands, and her sentiments, the sentiments
of too many of my sex, may serve as the text for a few comments. "Though
Rousseau," she observes, "has endeavoured
to prevent women from interfering in public affairs, and acting a brilliant
part in the theatre of politics; yet, in speaking of them, how much has he done
it to their satisfaction! If he wished
to deprive them of some rights, foreign to their sex, how has he for ever
restored to them all those to which it has a claim! And in attempting to diminish their influence
over the deliberations of men, how sacredly has he established the empire they
have over their happiness! In aiding
them to descend from an usurped throne, he has firmly seated them upon that to
which they were destined by nature; and though he be full of indignation
against them when they endeavour to resemble men, yet
when they come before him with all THE CHARMS WEAKNESSES, VIRTUES, and ERRORS,
OF their sex, his respect for their PERSONS amounts almost to
adoration." True!—For never was
there a sensualist who paid more fervent adoration at the shrine of
beauty. So devout, indeed, was his
respect for the person, that excepting the virtue of chastity, for obvious
reasons, he only wished to see it embellished by charms, weaknesses, and errors. He was afraid lest the austerity of reason
should disturb the soft playfulness of love.
The master wished to have a meretricious slave to fondle, entirely
dependent on his reason and bounty; he did not want a companion, whom he should
be compelled to esteem, or a friend to whom he could confide the care of his children's
education, should death deprive them of their father, before he had fulfilled
the sacred task. He denies woman reason,
shuts her out from knowledge, and turns her aside from truth; yet his pardon is
granted, because, "he admits the passion of love." It would require
some ingenuity to show why women were to be under such an obligation to him for
thus admitting love; when it is clear that he admits it only for the relaxation
of men, and to perpetuate the species; but he talked with passion, and that
powerful spell worked on the sensibility of a young encomiast. "What signifies it," pursues this
rhapsodist, "to women, that his reason disputes with them the empire, when
his heart is devotedly theirs." It
is not empire--but equality, that they should contend for. Yet, if they only wished to lengthen out
their sway, they should not entirely trust to their persons, for though beauty
may gain a heart, it cannot keep it, even while the beauty is in full bloom,
unless the mind lend, at least, some graces.
When women are once sufficiently enlightened to discover their real interest,
on a grand scale, they will, I am persuaded, be very ready to resign all the
prerogatives of love, that are not mutual, (speaking of them as lasting
prerogatives,) for the calm satisfaction of friendship, and the tender
confidence of habitual esteem. Before
marriage they will not assume any insolent airs, nor afterward abjectly submit;
but, endeavouring to act like reasonable creatures,
in both situations, they will not be tumbled from a throne to a stool.
Madame Genlis has written several entertaining
books for children; and her letters on Education afford many useful hints, that
sensible parents will certainly avail themselves of; but her views are narrow,
and her prejudices as unreasonable as strong.
I shall pass over her vehement argument in favour
of the eternity of future punishments, because I blush to think that a human
being should ever argue vehemently in such a cause, and only make a few remarks
on her absurd manner of making the parental authority supplant reason. For every where does she inculcate not only
BLIND submission to parents; but to the opinion of the world.*
She tells a story of a young man engaged by his father's express desire to
a girl of fortune. Before the marriage
could take place she is deprived of her fortune, and thrown friendless on the
world. The father practises the most infamous arts to
separate his son from her, and when the son detects his villany,
and, following the dictates of honour, marries the
girl, nothing but misery ensues, because forsooth he married WITHOUT his
father's consent. On what ground can
religion or morality rest, when justice is thus set at defiance? In the same style she represents an
accomplished young woman, as ready to marry any body that her MAMMA pleased to recommend;
and, as actually marrying the young man of her own choice, without feeling any
emotions of passion, because that a well educated girl had not time to be in
love. Is it possible to have much respect
for a system of education that thus insults reason and nature?
Many similar opinions occur in her writings, mixed with sentiments that do honour to her head and heart. Yet so much superstition is mixed with her
religion, and so much worldly wisdom with her morality, that I should not let a
young person read her works, unless I could afterwards converse on the
subjects, and point out the contradictions.
Mrs. Chapone's Letters are written with such good
sense, and unaffected humility, and contain so many useful observations, that I
only mention them to pay the worthy writer this tribute of respect. I cannot, it is true, always coincide in
opinion with her; but I always respect her.
The very word respect brings Mrs. Macaulay to my remembrance. The woman of the greatest abilities,
undoubtedly, that this country has ever produced. And yet this woman has been suffered to die
without sufficient respect being paid to her memory.
Posterity, however, will be more just; and remember that Catharine Macaulay
was an example of intellectual acquirements supposed to be incompatible with
the weakness of her sex. In her style of
writing, indeed, no sex appears, for it is like the sense it conveys, strong
and clear.
I will not call her's a masculine understanding,
because I admit not of such an arrogant assumption of reason; but I contend
that it was a sound one, and that her judgment, the matured fruit of profound
thinking, was a proof that a woman can acquire judgment, in the full extent of
the word. Possessing more penetration
than sagacity, more understanding than fancy, she writes with sober energy, and
argumentative closeness; yet sympathy and benevolence
give an interest to her sentiments, and that vital heat to arguments, which
forces the reader to weigh them.
When I first thought of writing these strictures I anticipated Mrs. Macaulay's
approbation with a little of that sanguine ardour
which it has been the business of my life to depress; but soon heard with the
sickly qualm of disappointed hope, and the still seriousness of regret--that
she was no more!
SECTION 5.5.
Taking a view of the different works which have been written on education,
Lord Chesterfield's Letters must not be silently passed over. Not that I mean to anal yze
his unmanly, immoral system, or even to cull any of the useful shrewd remarks
which occur in his frivolous correspondence--No, I only mean to make a few
reflections on the avowed tendency of them--the art of acquiring an early knowledge
of the world. An art, I will venture to
assert, that preys secretly, like the worm in the bud, on the expanding powers,
and turns to poison the generous juices which should mount with vigour in the youthful frame, inspiring warm affections and
great resolves.
For every thing, saith the wise man, there is
reason; and who would look for the fruits of autumn during the genial months of
spring? But this is mere declamation, and I mean to reason with those worldly-wise
instructors, who, instead of cultivating the judgment, instil
prejudices, and render hard the heart that gradual experience would only have
cooled. An early acquaintance with human
infirmities; or, what is termed knowledge of the world, is the surest way, in
my opinion, to contract the heart and damp the natural youthful ardour which produces not only great talents, but great
virtues. For the vain attempt to bring
forth the fruit of experience, before the sapling has thrown out its leaves,
only exhausts its strength, and prevents its assuming a natural form; just as
the form and strength of subsiding metals are injured when the attraction of
cohesion is disturbed. Tell me, ye who
have studied the human mind, is it not a strange way to fix principles by
showing young people that they are seldom stable? And how can they be fortified by habits when
they are proved to be fallacious by example?
Why is the ardour of youth thus to be damped,
and the luxuriancy of fancy cut to the quick? This dry caution may, it is true, guard a
character from worldly mischances; but will infallibly
preclude excellence in either virtue or knowledge. The stumbling-block thrown across every path
by suspicion, will prevent any vigorous exertions of genius or benevolence, and
life will be stripped of its most alluring charm long before its calm evening, when
man should retire to contemplation for comfort and support.
A young man who has been bred up with domestic friends, and led to store
his mind with as much speculative knowledge as can be acquired by reading and
the natural reflections which youthful ebullitions of animal spirits and
instinctive feelings inspire, will enter the world with warm and erroneous
expectations. But this appears to be the
course of nature; and in morals, as well as in works of taste, we should be
observant of her sacred indications, and not presume to lead when we ought
obsequiously to follow.
In the world few people act from principle; present feelings, and early
habits, are the grand springs: but how
would the former be deadened, and the latter rendered iron corroding fetters,
if the world were shown to young people just as it is; when no knowledge of
mankind or their own hearts, slowly obtained by experience rendered them
forbearing? Their fellow creatures would
not then be viewed as frail beings; like themselves, condemned to struggle with
human infirmities, and sometimes displaying the light and sometimes the dark
side of their character; extorting alternate feelings of love and disgust; but
guarded against as beasts of prey, till every enlarged social feeling, in a
word--humanity, was eradicated.
In life, on the contrary, as we gradually discover the imperfections of our
nature, we discover virtues, and various circumstances attach us to our fellow
creatures, when we mix with them, and view the same objects, that are never
thought of in acquiring a hasty unnatural knowledge of the world. We see a folly swell into a vice, by almost
imperceptible degrees, and pity while we blame; but, if the hideous monster
burst suddenly on our sight, fear and disgust rendering us more severe than man
ought to be, might lead us with blind zeal to usurp the character of omnipotence,
and denounce damnation on our fellow mortals, forgetting that we cannot read
the heart, and that we have seeds of the same vices lurking in our own.
I have already remarked, that we expect more from instruction, than mere
instruction can produce: for, instead of
preparing young people to encounter the evils of life with dignity, and to
acquire wisdom and virtue by the exercise of their own faculties, precepts are
heaped upon precepts, and blind obedience required, when conviction should be
brought home to reason.
Suppose, for instance, that a young person in the first ardour
of friendship deifies the beloved object--what harm can arise from this
mistaken enthusiastic attachment?
Perhaps it is necessary for virtue first to appear in a human form to
impress youthful hearts; the ideal model, which a more matured and exalted mind
looks up to, and shapes for itself, would elude their sight. He who loves not his brother whom he hath
seen, how can he love God? asked the wisest of men.
It is natural for youth to adorn the first object of its affection with
every good quality, and the emulation produced by ignorance, or, to speak with
more propriety, by inexperience, brings forward the mind capable of forming
such an affection, and when, in the lapse of time, perfection is found not to
be within the reach of mortals, virtue, abstractly, is thought beautiful, and
wisdom sublime. Admiration then gives
place to friendship, properly so called, because it is cemented by esteem; and
the being walks alone only dependent on heaven for that emulous panting after
perfection which ever glows in a noble mind.
But this knowledge a man must gain by the exertion of his own faculties;
and this is surely the blessed fruit of disappointed hope! for He who delighteth to diffuse happiness and show mercy to the weak
creatures, who are learning to know him, never implanted a good propensity to
be a tormenting ignis fatuus.
Our trees are now allowed to spread with wild luxuriance, nor do we expect
by force to combine the majestic marks of time with youthful graces; but wait
patiently till they have struck deep their root, and braved many a storm. Is the mind then, which, in proportion to its
dignity advances more slowly towards perfection, to be treated with less
respect? To argue from analogy, every
thing around us is in a progressive state; and when an unwelcome knowledge of
life produces almost a satiety of life, and we discover by the natural course
of things that all that is done under the sun is vanity, we are drawing near
the awful close of the drama. The days
of activity and hope are over, and the opportunities which the first stage of
existence has afforded of advancing in the scale of intelligence, must soon be
summed up. A knowledge at this period of
the futility of life, or earlier, if obtained by experience, is very useful,
because it is natural; but when a frail being is shown the follies and vices of
man, that he may be taught prudently to guard against the common casualties of
life by sacrificing his heart--surely it is not speaking harshly to call it the
wisdom of this world, contrasted with the nobler fruit of piety and experience.
I will venture a paradox, and deliver my opinion without reserve; if men
were only born to form a circle of life and death, it would be wise to take
every step that foresight could suggest to render life happy. Moderation in every pursuit would then be
supreme wisdom; and the prudent voluptuary might enjoy a degree of content, though
he neither cultivated his understanding nor kept his heart pure. Prudence, supposing we were mortal, would be
true wisdom, or, to be more explicit, would procure the greatest portion of happiness,
considering the whole of life; but knowledge beyond the conveniences of life
would be a curse.
Why should we injure our health by close study? The exalted pleasure which intellectual
pursuits afford would scarcely be equivalent to the hours of languor that
follow; especially, if it be necessary to take into the reckoning the doubts
and disappointments that cloud our researches.
Vanity and vexation close every inquiry:
for the cause which we particularly wished to discover flies like the horizon
before us as we advance. The ignorant,
on the contrary, resemble children, and suppose, that if they could walk
straight forward they should at last arrive where the earth and clouds
meet. Yet, disappointed as we are in our
researches, the mind gains strength by the exercise, sufficient, perhaps, to
comprehend the answers which, in another step of existence, it may receive to
the anxious questions it asked, when the understanding with feeble wing was
fluttering round the visible effects to dive into the hidden cause.
The passions also, the winds of life, would be useless, if not injurious,
did the substance which composes our thinking being, after we have thought in
vain, only become the support of vegetable life, and invigorate a cabbage, or
blush in a rose. The appetites would
answer every earthly purpose, and produce more moderate and permanent
happiness. But the powers of the soul
that are of little use here, and, probably, disturb our animal enjoyments, even
while conscious dignity makes us glory in possessing them, prove that life is
merely an education, a state of infancy, of which the only hopes worth
cherishing should not be sacrificed. I
mean, therefore to infer, that we ought to have a precise idea of what we wish
to attain by education, for the immortality of the soul is contradicted by the
actions of many people, who firmly profess the belief.
If you mean to secure ease and prosperity on earth as the first consideration,
and leave futurity to provide for itself, you act prudently in giving your
child an early insight into the weaknesses of his nature. You may not, it is true, make an Inkle of
him; but do not imagine that he will stick to more than the letter of the law,
who has very early imbibed a mean opinion of human nature; nor will he think it
necessary to rise much above the common standard. He may avoid gross vices,
because honesty is the best policy; but he will never aim at attaining great
virtues. The example of writers and
artists will illustrate this remark.
I must therefore venture to doubt, whether what has been thought an axiom
in morals, may not have been a dogmatical assertion
made by men who have coolly seen mankind through the medium of books, and say,
in direct contradiction to them, that the regulation of the passions is not
always wisdom. On the contrary, it
should seem, that one reason why men have superiour
judgment and more fortitude than women, is undoubtedly this, that they give a
freer scope to the grand passions, and by more frequently going astray, enlarge
their minds. If then by the exercise of
their own reason, they fix on some stable principle, they have probably to
thank the force of their passions, nourished by FALSE views of life, and
permitted to overleap the boundary that secures content. But if, in the dawn of life, we could soberly
survey the scenes before us as in perspective, and see every thing in its true colours, how could the passions gain sufficient strength to
unfold the faculties?
Let me now, as from an eminence, survey the world stripped of all its false
delusive charms. The clear atmosphere
enables me to see each object in its true point of view, while my heart is
still. I am calm as the prospect in a
morning when the mists, slowly dispersing, silently unveil the beauties of
nature, refreshed by rest.
In what light will the world now appear?
I rub my eyes and think, perchance, that I am just awaking from a lively
dream.
I see the sons and daughters of men pursuing shadows, and anxiously wasting
their powers to feed passions which have no adequate object--if the very excess
of these blind impulses pampered by that lying, yet constantly-trusted guide,
the imagination, did not, by preparing them for some other state, render short
sighted mortals wiser without their own concurrence; or, what comes to the same
thing, when they were pursuing some imaginary present good.
After viewing objects in this light, it would not be very fanciful to imagine,
that this world was a stage on which a pantomime is daily performed for the
amusement of superiour beings. How would they be diverted to see the
ambitious man consuming himself by running after a phantom, and, pursuing the
bubble fame in "the cannon's mouth" that was to blow him to
nothing: for when consciousness is lost,
it matters not whether we mount in a whirlwind or descend in rain. And should they compassionately invigorate
his sight, and show him the thorny path which led to eminence, that like a
quicksand sinks as he ascends, disappointing his hopes when almost within his
grasp, would he not leave to others the honour of
amusing them, and labour to secure the present moment,
though from the constitution of his nature he would not find it very easy to
catch the flying stream? Such slaves are
we to hope and fear!
But, vain as the ambitious man's pursuit would be, he is often striving for
something more substantial than fame--that indeed would be the veriest meteor, the wildest fire that could lure a man to
ruin. What! renounce the most trifling
gratification to be applauded when he should be no more! Wherefore this
struggle, whether man is mortal or immortal, if that noble passion did not really
raise the being above his fellows?
And love! What diverting scenes
would it produce--Pantaloon's tricks must yield to more egregious folly. To see a mortal adorn
an object with imaginary charms, and then fall down and worship the idol
which he had himself set up--how ridiculous!
But what serious consequences ensue to rob man of that portion of
happiness, which the Deity by calling him into existence has (or, on what can
his attributes rest?) indubitably promised; would not all the purposes of life
have been much better fulfilled if he had only felt what has been termed
physical love? And, would not the sight
of the object, not seen through the medium of the imagination, soon reduce the
passion to an appetite, if reflection, the noble distinction of man, did not give
it force, and make it an instrument to raise him above this earthy dross, by
teaching him to love the centre of all perfection! whose wisdom appears clearer
and clearer in the works of nature, in proportion as reason is illuminated and
exalted by contemplation, and by acquiring that love of order which the struggles
of passion produce?
The habit of reflection, and the knowledge attained by fostering any
passion, might be shown to be equally useful though the object be proved
equally fallacious; for they would all appear in the same light, if they were
not magnified by the governing passion implanted in us by the Author of all
good, to call forth and strengthen the faculties of each individual, and enable
it to attain all the experience that an infant can obtain, who does certain
things, it cannot tell why.
I descend from my height, and mixing with my fellow creatures, feel myself
hurried along the common stream; ambition, love, hope, and fear, exert their
wonted power, though we be convinced by reason that their present and most
attractive promises are only lying dreams; but had the cold hand of circumspection
damped each generous feeling before it had left any permanent character, or fixed
some habit, what could be expected, but selfish prudence and reason just rising
above instinct? Who that has read Dean
Swift's disgusting description of the Yahoos, and insipid one of Houyhnhnm with a philosophical eye, can avoid seeing the
futility of degrading the passions, or making man rest in contentment?
The youth should ACT; for had he the experience of a grey head, he would be
fitter for death than life, though his virtues, rather residing in his head
than his heart could produce nothing great, and his understanding prepared for
this world, would not, by its noble flights, prove that it had a title to a
better.
Besides, it is not possible to give a young person a just view of life; he
must have struggled with his own passions before he can estimate the force of
the temptation which betrayed his brother into vice. Those who are entering life, and those who
are departing, see the world from such very different points of view, that they
can seldom think alike, unless the unfledged reason of the former never
attempted a solitary flight.
When we hear of some daring crime--it comes full upon us in the deepest
shade of turpitude, and raises indignation; but the eye that gradually saw the
darkness thicken, must observe it with more compassionate forbearance. The world cannot be seen by an unmoved spectator,
we must mix in the throng, and feel as men feel before we can judge of their
feelings. If we mean, in short, to live
in the world to grow wiser and better, and not merely to enjoy the good things
of life, we must attain a knowledge of others at the same time that we become
acquainted with ourselves—knowledge acquired any other way only hardens the
heart and perplexes the understanding.
I may be told, that the knowledge thus acquired, is sometimes purchased at
too dear a rate. I can only answer, that
I very much doubt whether any knowledge can be attained without labour and sorrow; and those who wish to spare their
children both, should not complain if they are neither wise nor virtuous. They only aimed at making them prudent; and
prudence, early in life, is but the cautious craft of ignorant self-love. I have observed, that young people, to whose
education particular attention has been paid, have, in general, been very
superficial and conceited, and far from pleasing in any respect, because they
had neither the unsuspecting warmth of youth, nor the cool depth of age. I cannot help imputing this unnatural
appearance principally to that hasty premature instruction, which leads them
presumptuously to repeat all the crude notions they have taken upon trust, so
that the careful education which they received, makes them all their lives the slaves
of prejudices.
Mental as well as bodily exertion is, at first, irksome; so much so, that
the many would fain let others both work and think for them. An observation which I have often made will
illustrate my meaning. When in a circle
of strangers, or acquaintances, a person of moderate abilities, asserts an
opinion with heat, I will venture to affirm, for I have traced this fact home,
very often, that it is a prejudice.
These echoes have a high respect for the understanding of some relation
or friend, and without fully comprehending the opinions, which they are so
eager to retail, they maintain them with a degree of obstinacy, that would
surprise even the person who concocted them.
I know that a kind of fashion now prevails of respecting prejudices; and
when any one dares to face them, though actuated by humanity and armed by
reason, he is superciliously asked, whether his ancestors were fools. No, I should reply; opinions, at first, of
every description, were all, probably, considered, and therefore were founded
on some reason; yet not unfrequently, of course, it was
rather a local expedient than a fundamental principle, that would be reasonable
at all times. But, moss-covered opinions
assume the disproportioned form of prejudices, when they are indolently adopted
only because age has given them a venerable aspect, though the reason on which
they were built ceases to be a reason, or cannot be traced. Why are we to love prejudices, merely because
they are prejudices? A prejudice is a
fond obstinate persuasion, for which we can give no reason; for the moment a reason
can be given for an opinion, it ceases to be a prejudice, though it may be an
error in judgment: and are we then
advised to cherish opinions only to set reason at defiance? This mode of arguing, if arguing it may be
called, reminds me of what is vulgarly termed a woman's reason. For women sometimes declare that they love, or
believe certain things, BECAUSE they love, or believe them.
It is impossible to converse with people to any purpose, who, in this
style, only use affirmatives and negatives.
Before you can bring them to a point, to start fairly from, you must go
back to the simple principles that were antecedent to the prejudices broached
by power; and it is ten to one but you are stopped by the philosophical
assertion, that certain principles are as practically false as they are
abstractly true. Nay, it may be inferred,
that reason has whispered some doubts, for it generally happens that people
assert their opinions with the greatest heat when they begin to waver; striving
to drive out their own doubts by convincing their opponent, they grow angry
when those gnawing doubts are thrown back to prey on themselves.
The fact is, that men expect from education, what education cannot give. A sagacious parent or tutor may strengthen
the body and sharpen the instruments by which the child is to gather knowledge;
but the honey must be the reward of the individual's own industry. It is almost
as absurd to attempt to make a youth wise by the experience of another, as to
expect the body to grow strong by the exercise which is only talked of, or
seen.
Many of those children whose conduct has been most narrowly watched, become
the weakest men, because their instructors only instill certain notions into
their minds, that have no other foundation than their authority; and if they
are loved or respected, the mind is cramped in its exertions and wavering in
its advances. The business of education
in this case, is only to conduct the shooting tendrils to a proper pole; yet
after laying precept upon precept, without allowing a child to acquire judgment
itself, parents expect them to act in the same manner by this borrowed
fallacious light, as if they had illuminated it themselves; and be, when they
enter life, what their parents are at the close. They do not consider that the tree, and even
the human
body, does not strengthen its fibres till it has
reached its full growth.
There appears to be something analogous in the mind. The senses and the imagination give a form to
the character, during childhood and youth; and the understanding as life
advances, gives firmness to the first fair purposes of sensibility--till
virtue, arising rather from the clear conviction of reason than the impulse of
the heart, morality is made to rest on a rock against which the storms of
passion vainly beat.
I hope I shall not be misunderstood when I say, that religion will not have
this condensing energy, unless it be founded on reason. If it be merely the
refuge of weakness or wild fanaticism, and not a governing principle of
conduct, drawn from self-knowledge, and a rational opinion respecting the
attributes of God, what can it be expected to produce? The religion which consists in warming the affections,
and exalting the imagination, is only the poetical part, and may afford the
individual pleasure without rendering it a more moral being. It may be a substitute for worldly pursuits;
yet narrow instead of enlarging the heart:
but virtue must be loved as in itself sublime and excellent, and not for
the advantages it procures or the evils it averts, if any great degree of excellence
be expected. Men will not become moral
when they only build airy castles in a future world to compensate for the
disappointments which they meet with in this; if they turn their thoughts from relative
duties to religious reveries.
Most prospects in life are marred by the shuffling worldly wisdom of men,
who, forgetting that they cannot serve God and mammon, endeavour
to blend contradictory things. If you
wish to make your son rich, pursue one course --if you are only anxious to make
him virtuous, you must take another; but do not imagine that you can bound from
one road to the other without losing your way.